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writes:hi i'm 13 and umm i was at a party and some boy kiss me when i said to get off he wouldnt and my "best friend " is trying to get a picture while im begging him to get off and then he said "you like it" and now im questioning whether this is harassment or not? I talked to him and he doesnt think he did any thing wrong. can someone help me. and is my "best friend really a friend? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): Hey,
According to what you've described this is more of a boyish act, stupid yet friendly still, and no bad intentions.
Harrassment is a totally different word honey, and you need to learn how not to 'abuse' this term, and abuse other people's lives, exactly like you don't want anyone to 'abuse' you. Fair enough?
This was a young stupid boy doing stupid things in a stupid party, but if we accused every boy doing something he thinks is funny in a party because some girl said "harrassment" then we're gonna lose most of our kids in jails and prisons!!!
I always encouraged harrassment egulations because they shall help protecting the society, but unfortunately a lot of females "especially the younger ones" have abused it in a SCARY way.
If he's your friend then stick to him, if you do not feel comfortable anymore then cut off with him, but in all cases stop using words as big as "harrassment" when you really have no single idea what you're talking about even.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): what he did was wrong. That he thinks it's no big deal is wrong. Your so called friend who set this up and didn't help you was wrong.
If you say no it means no - and that should apply to you at any age. Speak to your mom or a school counsellor or a teacher for some advice on what to do should this happen again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): It's simple.You said 'No' and meant it.He kept going.That my dear IS sexual harrassment.Flynn 24
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reader, Madam Taylor  +, writes (13 June 2008):
Kids don't fully understand what they are doing sometimes, it is sexual harrasment but he might not realise that same with your friend, they obviously thought it was funny but if they could see that you were upset and carried on well then neither of them are good friends. A best friend would be there to help when you are upset not make it worse. Tell your friend you were upset that she didn't stand up for her she may not realise that you don't treat your friends that way.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (13 June 2008):
Ok is harrassment and you shouldn't let it go because then guy will get the idea that they can do that to you and not get in trouble. It will end up leading to you being raped! Your friend is not a friend and it seems like she helped set you up! Talk to your mom. You did nothing wrong and she will know that. She can help you handle this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): this is my question i posted it but i also posted 3 more of the same question so there a more complex story in case you wanted to answer those
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): wow that sounds like the whole thing was staged ...Idk about that best friend of yours ....That guy did harass you if you said stop and he didn't thats harassment hun....I had a similar thing happen to me in the 6th grade .
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