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writes: I know this guy from a dating site. We plan for our first date out for drinks but he got tied up at work so he suggested to have drinks at his place. Long story short, i agreed to go over only if he's cooking dinner and he said yes so we hang out.Few drinks later and kinda drunk, we ended up making out and went up his room. I was confused myself because I don't know if i want to sleep with him the first time we met and I admit I've sent mixed signals to him. That's why he got confuse too. after awhile, he got pissed because he thought i was playing games with him. I felt used, so i left without saying a word.He text me the next day and say he was sorry for last night, that he reacted badly. He say he like me and want to see me again. So I'm confuse now. Is he saying he like me just so he can try to get into my pants again, or do he really mean what he say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): Thanks you all for your advice. :) Greatly appreciate
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2012): You don't go to a guy place on a first date. That's a big no no. Also it's dangerous too.
It can't be more of a mixed signal to come to his house. Of course he ll try to get in your pants. They all do, it calls nature. What do you think he loves you seeing you only once?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2012): "Is he saying he like me just so he can try to get into my pants again, or do he really mean what he say?"
He's saying that since he got you to his place, drunk, and into his bedroom on the first date then it's worth his while to try and get into your pants again.
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reader, Staceily  +, writes (21 November 2012):
 Depends on how he acted when he was pissed. Did he curse you out or was he just visibly annoyed? I think he may have been frustrated because he thought you wanted more and doesn't like the mind games, like you said. I'd give him another chance but first I'd lay it out- "I'm sorry for how last night went, I didn't mean to play games or mess with your head. Truth is I like to wait a long time before having sex and it was unlike me to act as I did last night."
And stand by that statement! Wait before having sex because its the only way to know if a guy does want more than what's in your pants. If he still wants to hang out after you texted him that then it could be a good sign, and make sure you don't hang out at either of your houses, just go out somewhere public. It's always easy to find out if a guy wants only sex, don't have sex with him. You will find out quickly when he never calls again. If you hang out again and he pressures you to go back to his place or yours then leave and give up on him. But you wont lose anything by trying again, providing you DO NOT have sex with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2012): Crossed wires. Try laying your cards on the table and telling him you will see him again, BUT you won't have sex with him just yet.
If he still wants to meet you, he maybe genuine. If he changes his mind about seeing you, he's likely just after sex and knows he won't get it from you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 November 2012):
 you were playing games.
Honey any woman that goes to a man's apartment for drinks is bound to get at least an attempt to get into her pants..
I agree with Honeypie.. if you want to meet up with him again, do so in public....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 November 2012):
 I wouldn't met up with this guy again - there is no excuse for his behavior.
Learn from this - DO NOT met up at people's houses - date a guy in PUBLIC places til you feel you actually KNOW the person. If he can't make it to a public place in time - reschedule.
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