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Did he lie to me all that time?

Tagged as: Breaking up, Friends, Long distance, Three is a crowd, Troubled relationships<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (9 April 2009) 7 Answers - (Newest, 15 April 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi cupid readers, here's the story! I was in a long distance relationship and I was so in love with him and he loved me.

Then one day he told me a girl asked him out for a meal and he told me they were just friends and I was trying to tell him he had accepted a date and he was saying no no no I haven't, it's just a meal I was trying to tell him why would a girl just ask him out for a meal if it wasn't a date?

Anyways that was that, then I had a message from a number I didn't know and they said leave my boyfriend alone... I thought huh? I don't even know the number!!! I rung him and it was this girl he'd gone out with for the meal as "friends". I was very upset by this and he kept telling me nothing happend they weren't together!

In the end I flipped and I ended it he turned very spiteful saying I was a rubbish girlfriend and I didn't deserve love!

I tried so hard not to text him and evertyhing but he flooded me with calls and texts, I even threatened to involve the police as he was upsetting me I became terrified of him! He wouldn't leave me alone until I said we could be friends so I agreed to be friends (just to stop him being so horrible to me).

I know I shouldn't have done this but I hacked his hotmail account and I went through his emails. I found one from this girl, the one who text me to leave her "boyfriend" alone and it read: "we broke up, get over it it's what people do". I was absolutely gob smacked that I had been so right all along and pulled along by a string.

Also I had found a picture on there from another girl he dated the time we were together saying what do you think?

He also told me some songs that reminded him of me and he told one of his other exes the exact same thing he also told his ex that he would NEVER find love again (this is before me) and he kept telling me he loved me and i was the only one for him and he told her that he would never love anyone as much as he loved her!

I was soo angry!!!! and upset because I felt everything was a lie!!!

Also there was a picture of him and this girl who text me to keep away from her boyfriend with her laying over him like he was sat down and her legs all over him!!

Am I right in thinking they did actually go out and he just lied all along? or was he right in saying I don't deserve love and I was a rubbish girlfriend?

Please no nasty comments, I really don't deserve that!

thank you!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009):

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oh yeah i text him to tell him i want nothing to do with him blah blah he kicked off we been arguing all afternoon and now he's said i am not to bother going to him if i am upset about my sister or any family issues because he don't want to know!

i said that's sick and he wonders why i don't want to be his friend!

he's so spiteful when i refuse to be his friend!

ARFHfg

fr#

i duno what else to do!

i#'ve said im going to block his number1

and i will!!!

elg,kgth

i don't deserve this!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (9 April 2009):

Honeypie agony auntTake a deep breath then be happy. He is one sick puppy that truly do not deserve you.

So you hacked his hotmail.. /shrug.. Yes you shouldn't have but.. I can understand why.

What I think you need to do is cut the contact with him. Block his calls/text/emails and move on.

He's a loser. Big time.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009):

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thank you all so much for your help :)

and Klara thanks!"!!!

you're very lovely to say that :)

thank you all

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009):

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hi i just want to say thanks to you all :)

really helps.

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A female reader, princess09 United Kingdom +, writes (9 April 2009):

if he was lying to you then he wasn't a true boyfriend and he didn't love you that much don't worry to much

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (9 April 2009):

eyeswideopen agony auntI think you had a long distance romance with a player. I think if you have a relationship with some one you can actually hang out with, in the flesh so to speak, you'll be able to prove to yourself that you aren't a rubbish girlfriend. Long distance romances suck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009):

um..

If he got super nasty with you that shows his true colors right there. He wasn't apologetic, or contrite.. he just responded with out an out venom? And you are still his friend because?

How in the world did you hack his hotmail account? talented girl... Keylogger? Phishing? But, yeah, that evidence you found is pretty damning. I wouldn't worry about this anymore.

and yes, everything was a lie..including him calling you rubbish..

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