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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend (we've been dating for about 5 months) was recently going through a tough time overseas and really only had me supporting him from across the ocean. During this time, he was very vocal about loving me and we spoke every single day. It felt like the many miles between us didn't matter because spiritualy we were close. He said he realised how much he adores me. Now, over the last few weeks, he seems positive about the future (obviously i am happy about this) and his return to Australia. The only thing is that he has seemed a bit emotionally distant. The other day he didnt even answer when i told him i love him. Other times he says, 'cool' when i say it... it's just making me feel weird. He says he isn't one to say that he loves someone all the time and he's going through lots, but he was saying it all the time and now isn't. I tried talking to him over Skype about this (shaky, freezing screens and all, LoL) and he said we should be chatting about this and our relationship matters in person when he come back. i said, 'so there is something wrong' to which he said no. I told him i don't believe him. it's true. I don't. When you ask someone if they still want to be with you, then you expect them to say, 'yes, i love you etc' but with him i just got, 'i do.' Then nothing. So it makes me worry more. Am i being pushed away because i am not needed anymore? Should i be a bit distant? What do i do?!!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 October 2014):
 It can be that he is not so focussed on the relationship at the moment. LDR can really go up and down, because so MUCH of conversations are left to interpretations and reading between the lines.
I wouldn't pull away, but maybe make the conversation about other topics than JUST the relationships. Maybe talk books, movies, upcoming events - maybe let the pressure off a little.
YOU have decided that something is wrong and he MUST not love you any more. It could be the furthest from the truth, but with you second guessing him and yourself, you can be pushing him away.
If you conversions are running smoothly, make them short and sweet. He will be home soon.
It can BE that he is considering ending things, but wants to wait til he get home. NOTHING you say or do will change that. Because it's possible it's not about you.
However, I would try and stay positive and see what comes.
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (15 October 2014):
 It sounds like he wants out of the relationship but is too weak to end it. I think you'll have to do it because you can't go on like this.
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