A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi There,When I first got together with my other half , I can;t remember why we were discussing it but he told me he had deleted all inappropriate pictures of his ex-wife.Two years ago I found some pictures on his computer which he told me he didn't know they were there and assured me that he had deleted them all from his back ups and stuff. I mean I don't mind him having pics of their time together and stuff but x-rated stuff makes me feel uncomfortableYesterday I was tidying up all our cds and I came across one from like 2003, being the nosey person I am I went and looked on it and he had this whole folder of pictures of her naked in various poses...also a hell of a load of porn!So based on him telling me he had deleted all this, should I be mad at him? I feel upset about it but I haven't said anything as for all I know he may not have even known he still had the cd and well I guess I shouldn't have looked....just the other part of me worries that what if he does still look at this stuff....Thoughts please? Also, when you have a gf guys do you still keep folders full of pics of naked girls from the internet?Thanksx
View related questions:
ex-wife, his ex, porn, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, silentwatch  +, writes (13 June 2014):
Dont get angry.. instead make a cd of yourself with him.. :)
A
male
reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (10 June 2014):
“I came across one from like 2003.”
Let me state the obvious…it’s now 2014. If the pictures are of her from 2014, then yes...You have a right to be upset. The fact something from 2003 has you over analyzing your guy… is amazing. He may not even be thinking of her, but now you are. If he loves you, he is pleasing you, and you are pleasing him, then bring on a 1000 CD’s. Leave the ex where she belongs…on the CD.
...............................
A
female
reader, like I see it  +, writes (10 June 2014):
 Discreetly keeping tasteful pictures of memories like vacations they took to places he may never see again... that's one thing. Pornographic photos of his ex, though? Not acceptable in most relationships! Your reaction is quite natural.
Tell him you found it and ask him politely to get rid of it. I'm betting he forgot he had it and if this is the case he's likely to be apologetic and trash it straight away.
Good luck and best wishes!
...............................
|
