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writes:I have been with my man for 6 months now. Things were going great, then he lost his dream job because of a stupid thing he did, found a new one but its not a good one, but he needs to work there to earn some money. He became really distant with me and stopped communicating with me as much. 3 days ago I asked him to do something together he said he's not in a mood, I asked if he's ok and he said he has a bad day today but its nothing to do with me so I asked if he wants to just hang to which he replayed that he would rather spend the night by himself and that he will be okay. I replyed saying that I know he will be okay but he should think what he is doing to me when he's acting like that. he didn't reply and hasn't contacted me at all and its now the 2nd day. did he dump me or are we on a break? how long should I wait for him to call me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): "I replyed saying that I know he will be okay but he should think what he is doing to me when he's acting like that."
Needy much? He tells you he is having a horrible day, is not in the mood to meet up and your reply is he should think about how upset he's making you? Way to make his day ten times worse OP.
He wasn't acting like anything he has shit on his mind and instead of being supportive you become needy and demanding?
And now you can't even see there's anything wrong with that and you're waiting for him to call you?
Sorry OP, but I wouldn't call you either and unless you can stop being selfish and try being a bit understanding and supportive and perhaps text me to apologise for the message and ask how I'm doing then you quite simply are not going to get any kind of message from me.
Even then OP you'd be very lucky that if I didn't dump you. This guy has enough on his plate at the moment and is in a bad place in his life and ll you can think about is how it effects you? not for me thanks.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (26 November 2012):
 Wow. No one could ever accuse you of being too supportive. He had a bad day, wants a bit of time to himself, was honest about that and even reassured you it had nothing to do with you and all you care about is how it affects you. It hasn't even been two days.
Not speaking or getting together every single day does not mean it's over. I would give it two weeks and no more. BUT...I would not contact him during that time. If you don't hear from him by the end of 14 days, assume it's over and move on. No fuss, no muss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): He just lost his dream job for his own fault, he must be feelign lousy and questioning his life. You should give him space and wait for him to contact you, if he does not for a while thne he is not that into you anymore.
Think about it, he must be feeling pretty lousy and doesnt want to entretain people over.
give him space and time, two days is not the end of the world, over a week? then i would be concerned.
Show him you are an independent girl
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