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writes:Hi I need help. I am so confused. I have been dating this man for 10 mths. We met on match.com. We have had a great time together. Now he is questioning out compatability long term. He says I'm a wonderful person, good looking, kind, caring, I clean, cook, every man's dream but we have some difference. He likes stock market and talks about politics, I don't. Simple things which is normal I think. He believes eharmony's test is a great compatability test to see if we are right for each other. I took it for him and it hasn't matched us up yet? So now he he thinks he needs time to pray about this and if it is meant to be we will get back together. He wants to see if anyone else out there is more comapatable for him. He cried as he left me at the break up. He had a bad childhood and bad marriage of 21 years and he's says he's worried about making a mistake because he wants to get married again to the right person.He even said he may be making a mistake. What should I do? Is this crazy or what? He is very religous, so he says God may show him that it's me he should be with.And he's going to talk to his pastor. Any thoughts of how to handle this? I am in love with him and we were having the most amazing time together.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 My word is this guy for real???
Seems he didnt have the balls to admit to you outright that he was moving on without you.
What a jerk!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 That must be the lamest excuse I have ever heard for ditching a woman :" I leave you because eharmony says we are not compatible ".
He can't be serious, can he ?....
But if he is- just breathe a sigh of relief and thank your lucky star. The guy is either insane or just unbelievably stupid.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Sorry, but the guy is an absolute moron who is blaming his issues on religion. Tell him that he just threw away the best thing he ever had because of some stupid fallable compatibility test that was only created to make a company MORE MONEY. Do you even want to date someone that gullible and flaky??
And why does he need his PASTOR to tell him that you two are right for each other? There SHOULD be a bit of difference in a relationship. If you two were perfectly like each other, your relationship would be dull and boring.
Sorry, but this guy is an absolute toolbox who should buy a dog. Relationships are about risks - no one is perfect. This is the stupidest reason I have ever heard of someone dumping someone.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Why would you want to be with someone that bases your relationship on a compatibility test? That's such a glaring red flag. If he really wanted to be with you, he would be with you. Instead, he fed you a sob story to get you to hang on, so that just in case he doesn't find someone better he has you as a backup plan.
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