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female
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anonymous
writes:I've been talking/texting this guy for almost 3 months. We've been taking it slow, and for the past month that we've been apart realize how much we miss each other and want to be together. So he calls me, and tells me how he thinks of me all the time ..sees a future for us. ectect.So im estactic cause I like the guy.He even asked me to be his "girl". I said yes. Since he was so open and honest with his feelings. I decided to write him a nice letter declaring my feelings for him. I thought he would love it but by hearing his voice. I think i might have scared him away. I haven't heard from him for 2 whole days and that's a lot cause we've were talking everynight before that and it's still so new in the relationship. I guess my question is...is it me??I notice that once a guy think he "has me" or i like him. The just stop calling and showing interest. I thought it was okay to tell your partner how you feel and be open and honest. But it seems like every relationship i've been in...the minute i declare my feelings for them. I never hear from them again. What am i doing wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, 48years  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 They may not be declaring their affection-they may be just trying to make you think they like/love you. It could be lust (women mistake it for love all the time), or it could be that the guy really got uncomfortable with things out in the open.
It hurts no matter what, though.
A guy who really cares can't resist giving you love notes, presents or phone calls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never told him or any guys that I loved them.
I just expressed my feelings how I like them ...the same way they expessed it to me.
I just don't understand why it's okay for them to declare their affection but when a girl does it, they run for the hills.
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reader, 48years +, writes (21 December 2008):
My rule of thumb is old fashioned: Let them say it first (even if you'e bursting with love). They like to feel like they've won you over.
No, honey, you didn't blow it...because the right guy would take those beautiful feelings and cherish them. The right guy would think he was the luckiest man on earth to have someone like you loving them.
So, next time, hold back till they say it first.
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