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*iketso
writes:ok before anyone reads my plea for help.bear in mind that everything happens for a reason and that u might find a rough diamond hidden in the mist of trouble.please dont reply if u are not going to look at the picture.ok. a few weeks ago i reconected with an old childhood friend.my intention with him was just to be friends.we decided to meet for ice cream buT things just moved to another level and we ended up having sex.he then explained his situation.his exgirlfriend left him for another guy.then he hooked up with that guys girlfriend.now that guy wants the girl back cause thex have a baby together.now he is confused.i dont want to put any presures on him.he does the weirdest things for me.he will drive a long distance sick and tired just to spend time with me.we have great conversations and he loves my personality at least that is what he says.i dont want to be his saviour.but i cant help but to fall for him.i want him.i think he is a good guy.i just wish he could just wake up and come to me complete.
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reader, Diketso +, writes (24 December 2008):
Diketso is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAs u know me and him have already had sex.but i decided to take ur advice and slow down.i will just be his friend and see how his situation turns out.u r right there is nothing wrong with hoping.but i have this gutt feeling that if i take it slow and watch what happens things will workout in my favour.Thanx a lot britt429.u understood my situation well and didnt judge my situation.u understand that things can go either way.either i get hurt or i get loved.thanx.i will let u know how things r going in a month or two if thats ok with u.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): You could be setting yourself up for a lot of pain and misery...I've been there, done that, and it sucks!
I can hear from your words that you are having an inner conflict about the situation. You see the red flags, as much as you are trying to look the other way! Don't ignore them. You instincts are trying to tell you something...LISTEN!
I'm not saying you should walk away now, although that is what I would do, knowing what I know now. But keep it on a friendship level. Don't move to fast. He's got a lot of baggage to sort out before he gets into another serious relationship!
I tend to always want to help people, but sometimes it turns out that we're the one who needs help in the end!
Prepare yourself for the worst with this guy, but you can still hope for the best!
Good Luck
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