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writes:HELLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!You may remember posts I have made regarding my husband's 'texting affair' and the 'kind' gesture of his 'lady' friend when I confronted her, telling me he had done it before. I also discovered that he lied for 8 years about a Tiffany heart necklace he bought for this previous woman referred to.Well, all this has been going on for nearly 2 years all told and it's as raw as ever and infact getting worse. I have been told other snippets from people who noticed their closeness and instead of it fading it's becoming more and more incriminating.I had lots of great advice and support from many of you on here and although I am full of good intentions when I read it, I CAN'T LET IT GO and let them get away with it (she's got away scot free as I didn't have the guts to contact her husband as mine said I might regret it).My problem is that my husband's mum died on new year's eve and I tried to promise myself that I wouldn't hound him with my questioning about these 'affairs' while he was mourning. The funeral is Monday and I've been unable to keep this promise.He has just gone up to bed distraught because I brought it up this evening again quizzing him as to why he threatened I would regret it if I phoned her husband and saying it's Valentine's soon and who was he buying a heart necklace for this year.Do you think I'm unbelievably cruel doing this while he's grieving for his mum? Well I'm grieving for the marriage he destroyed.As you probably know if you followed my posts, we love each other to bits but I know I can never come to terms or forgive let alone forget. He says I've blown everything out of proportion, but then he would wouldn't he?He swears he has only ever loved me and made a stupid mistake, hmmmm just the ONE?I have been advised by many of you to put a line under it and move on but I can't even shut up while he is in mourning. I think you will all advise me that it really is the end and we should split up. I am beginning to think this is the only answer after nearly 2 years of trying to mend our marriage. Thanks for reading x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2010): I really think there is too much emphasis on marriage. I do understand jealousy and anger though. I would say if you are unable to forgive him and never will be happy again, then leave. But if it were me and I would go find a lover of my own and even the score.
People on this site as from what I've read will all tell you to leave him. Again, I say stay and have your own side project. No need to leave a marriage that you've had for 10+ years.
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