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writes:I have been in a devoted relationship now for almost two years. It's been out of the ordinary in that it's with another female. I have a 10 year old daughter and I have been separated from her dad now for about 4 years. We were young and unsettled. Today, we have both met our grounds with respecting to growing up. We own our own homes, have careers and have similar cultural backgrounds that we appreciate. I've been seeing his hard work as well as mine pay off and now am left to wonder how great this would be to make things work. He makes suggestions, but I also have been with someone that has helped me balance out my life and truly has lifted me up to contentment in the last year. I'm a mess today in that I wonder and desire now my daughters father. How do I handle this? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 May 2010):
Think. All those problems you had will still be there. Whereas this woman you're with now has not failed you. She's been there. Your child's father may have worked harder, but he's still the same guy. He will act the same way. All those problems will be the same. I don't think it's worth destroying something you have with this woman to go back to something that didn't work. Because if it doesn't, you'll lose them both, and your daughter will be even more unsettled that both of you put together. Leave him in the past.
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