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writes:Hello Guys, My bf went into depression because his granddad who raised him is sick and about to die. Everything started with this. My bf went to his country for 2 weeks and when came back he did not want to see me and told me give him time during the time he barely texts me or calls me.. After he came back I haven't seen him for 3 weeks and now total is We havent seen each other 1.5 month including the vacation to his country.. During these days made me so upset I could'nt eat or focus on my studying because I am alone living here alone when he act like that, I feel pushed away and every day I cried.. I offered him to meet up with me and he did not want anything so How can I help him or what's the meaning of this relationshp if I dont help him? he was just texting me sayng he missed me and love me and understand that he is depressed and wanted to see me a lot but he just want me to give him time.. Isnt that enough? 1.5 months? Finally I told him whatever this problem is, I wanna see you and I will see you. Then we decided to meet up but guess what happened? on that day he got sick and went to hospital and stayed in the hospital one day.. I was so sad because I didint see him again and also he is sick too.. I guess thats my fate... I cried a lot again and Iam really sick of crying because it is hurting me when you have bf and he deoesnt care about you.. oK i understand he is depressed but in 2 months??? isnt that too much? and he should have also think of me... If you ask me, why I didnt go to see the hospital, because his bro texed to say that there is lots of ppl over there and its bad idea, even though I met his family and I feel like neglected and his parents don't like me.. why? I am his gf why would'nt I go and see him? and I texed him ok thats fine.. and my birthday is upcoming friday well I am expecting him to do something but not sure anymore.... what do u think guys? here is my story I hope you give me advice guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): If you want to be a great girlfriend then tell him to take all the time he needs and you will wait for him. It will give him comfort.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 Your boyfriend is depressed, his grandfather/father figure is dying, and all you seem to worry about is yourself. Maybe he see's the same thing and that is why he is avoiding you - coz he needs support, not to have to cater to the needs of another right now.
Everyone handles grief differently, so no, 2 months is not too long for an ongoing situation to not want to socialize. Expect it to be a lot longer too because he is likely to sink down even further once his beloved family member does finally pass.
Give him his time and space. That is the most caring things you can do for him right now if that is what he wants!
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