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writes:hi, I am a young mother but sometimes get tired of doing the mother thing, I mean don't get me wrong I love my kids to death but sometimes I just need a little me time. I get up with them in the morning and I go to sleep with them at night. I have some help but it seems like its not enough. All their dad wants to do is hang out with his friends like as if he don't have a family at home that needs him some times. I don't know what to do. I am always saying if I wanted to be a single mother I would be, but that's not what I want,but thats what it feels like. Can someone give me some advice PLEASE!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 This is typical of young fathers who are inexperienced and they do not know what is going through the minds of their over worked and over stressed wife.
Only when problems arise do those inexperienced young mothers cry out for help.They have taken on too many roles and failed to delegate some.
You need to talk to him and share some of the child care giving. This should give you sometime to rest and have sometime for yourself.
Parenting is not your sole priority and he has to put in some efforts too. Don't allow him to go out everyday as though he has no family. He is married and need to share the responsibilities of the home.Make him realize that.
Sometimes, friends, siblings can help too or your own mother if she is available. Your mom can give you some help ,moral and emotional support.
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reader, shannon222 +, writes (24 April 2010):
 You should really let the father know how you feel. He should give you a break to be able to have some you time. If he is not willing to try and make you happy by taking some time away from his friends to be with his family. Then it sounds like he doesn't really want to be there. I would just recommend sitting down with him and having a one on one talk. Tell him all your feelings, don't hide anything. Hope everything works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010): I am also a young mother and I don't work, just stay at home with my daughter, I know how stessful it can be! You just have to try and pull through it! Things always get better, you should try telling thw fathers dad how you are feeling, maybe arrange one night a week where you go out with friends and he looks after the children!Hope you feel better soon :)
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