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anonymous
writes:I went to a party and got drunk. I ended up having sex with a girl I just met. I was a virgin and this is the biggest mistake of my life. I feel depressed and don't know what to do.
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reader, jujubelover +, writes (8 August 2010):
 Don't be too hard on yourself about what happened. But you now know that there are a few things that you need to be a little more discerning about. Like not drinking too much and how far you want to go with a girl. It must be difficult in this day and age to try to keep your v-card; with friends, tv, movies, just about everywere, you are inundated with the fact that there aren't many people out there that want to hold off, until the right person comes along. Remember, you are human, you made a mistake. You can hate what you did, but don't dwell on it for too long. Do remember though to always, always use protection. You don't have to continue having sex, you can stop and wait until the right person comes along and/or when the right time comes along. You still are a good person, so don't vilify yourself for too long!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): Don't worry about it, that's how it happened to me except I knew the girl from beforehand.
Look virginity isn't a big deal at all, you ask 100 people what losing their virginity was like and 80 of them will tell you it was crappy or a mistake.
The whole losing it to your first love, saving it for someone special thing is actually kind of rare.
If this happened last night, then you're probably suffering post-drink blues too. Give it a couple of days and you won't even care that much, it's just sex.
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reader, Odds +, writes (8 August 2010):
 Get yourself checked for STD's and hope to God she didn't get pregnant.
Realize that it's not the end of your life, you're not ruined, and that maybe it's time to stop drinking until you're a bit older.
If it's a religious thing, God will forgive you if you really seek it. If not, well, it won't affect your future love life if you don't let it.
Cheer up, get some support from friends or family. Good luck to you.
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