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female
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30-35,
*eautybella
writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for about six months,i didn't like when i first met him because felt that he was just too serious,the complete opposite of me according to certain things,so he chased me for more than half a month,before we got together,at first i was angry at a guy chasing after me so much when i though he was only interested in me sexually,since he never made himself clear,he said there was something about that aroused him every what,and that he has to find out why,so it started as sexual relationship so i could give him what he wants ,so he can live but the opposite happened i start getting deeper into things until we are where we are today,and Ive even introduced him to my family,(something i would never ever do,it was a first time)and they love him.the first month of our sexual relationship (the 2nd time we had sex)i got pregnant and this is when we start to really give unto our feelings for each other,well he told me he loved me before i told him,because i was scared of what he say we weren't dating we were just having sex,and it was a scary thing for me since i was only 17 and i had broke upwith my other boyfriend in the same month,so he had so many excuses to say i wasn't pregnant for but he just accepted it,i had an abortion cuz i don't plan on ruining my life just yet,no one could have changed my mind,and after that we got stronger and closer,i did like him when we started going out but i feel a bit scared of him,i mean he would never hurt me but im just i don't know,maybe because i cant go against not that i find myself wanting too and we usually agree on everything,i believe in communication,i even told him this and he laughed at me,but at times i get agitated with him because hes so mean to others but not with me,and he wont listen to me when i tell him he shouldn't act that way,but he replies with i don't give a damn about others and hes a bit impatient and don't like to wait,which i hate i don't really understand what im going thru right now,i know i love him very much and would do anything for him ,but my friend mention that maybe this is only because i got pregnant and that's why we feel like were in love,but i don't believe that,matter i completely go against it cuz i wont fall for someone just cuz of that,it would take more BS.you know how when you've been with someone and your completely taken ,it feels like you've known them forever,i feel that way but not just that but there's too little time in the world to really get to know this men,and im starting to act ,a way i hate,i don't like to be dependent on others but with its omg,and we do have problems but none that last more than a day or that we cant resolve,we talk a lot.i just wanted to share my story with you and see if u can figure out my problem and what you think ,cuz i don't know myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): A baby should'nt ruin your life there blessings. Some say they bring familys closer but actually they make a family. When you get pregnant your hormones go out of balance you could be laughing then a min later start crying ect. Having a baby, true can bring people closer but technically you did'nt have one. Normaly abortion/loss of a child pushes people apart.
Your not confused your just looking for another way out, you are replacing the loss of your baby (which is unconditional love) by giving more love to others. Which happens to be to your bf. As he really changed though? Or did he always use to be mean to others and you just blank it out? (more of a rhetorical question) If Im wrong then prehaps the loss has effected him to resulting instead of love, hate. Either way getting rid of your baby= big mistake.
All the best xx
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