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writes:We've been going out for the past 5 years. Barely a month now, we haven't talked on phone because she told me she's ready for marriage and I'm not. I love this girl but I want to complete my masters, she doesn't understand so what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): Complete your masters.
Firstly you need to decide if marriage is ever going to be on the cards with this lady and then you need to decide whether marriage will be enough for her or whether babies would shortly follow? Your masters will more than likely not happen if that is the case.
You need to explain to her that by doing your course and gaining your masters you will be able to get a very good job and so will allow you to beable to shower her with nice things and provide for her if and when you do decide to get married.
By asking you to put marriage first she is proving very selfish, after all you have to consider worst case scenarios and if you dont do your masters, what kind of job will you have if you were to split?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (24 November 2007):
 Are you saying you do not want to marry her NOW, or are you saying you are not sure you want to marry her at all?
Five years without some form of long term committment is too long.
Have you thought about an engagement ring, or pre-engagement ring?
You either do want to marry her, or you do not. If you are at all unsure, then set her free so taht she can be with a man that appreciates her.
-Frank B Kermit
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