Dating someone I've known for 2 years and know its going to be exclusive

A male age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My situation is as follows. Ive known this girl for almost two years. She is 13 years older than me and we are great friends. She is currently going through a divorce and is in the middle of finishing it. After about 6 months of when we first met, we kissed because we knew we had feelings for each other. Months later on vacation with friends we kissed again. We really got into each other and fell in love with one another but didnt do it the right way. She was going through a seperation and things just moved too fast. There was sex also. About 3 weeks ago she decided to end it because shes trying to focus on finishing her divorce and moving on so she can focus on having a relationship. Shes also dealing with a health issue and its too much on her at once to worry about a relationship. She did ask me the other day when were going on a date. Because we never started off the right way to begin with and she feels we missed out on alot of bonding that comes with it. Now my question is, since we already know so much about each other, we both know we are only going to be dating each other, im having a hard time knowing when to kiss her on what date, when to ask her if she considers us a couple after the 4th or 5th date. Its confusing because you have strong feelings for this person but also have to start over at the same time. Any input is greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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