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female
age
36-40,
*eartbrokenalways
writes:i have always failed to get into relationships that i actually feel are right for me, in fact i get so far with that person, then they lose interest when i ask them out. i have tried every approach, being nice, kind, being hard to get, being forceful and being laid back and good old fasioned, being myself, but nothing works. i met a guy recently who couldnt stop admiring me and saying how great i was, we met up held hands and kissed and i felt so happy. when i asked him if he'd like us to be together he fed me all the usual rubbish of , im not good with relationships, or i need to get to know you better, and thease are all the usual things i hear with my rejections. i feel totally destroyed. ive tried dating websites, going out meeting people, but when i meet someone i like it never works out. what can i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): For myself, Im a very serious guy with relationships and I cold never find someone on that level with me. Turns out, Im bes suited for marriage. Thankfully, Ive played the dating game and have seen what I want and what I certainly do not want in a woman. I plan on getting an arranged marriage and will do so by say formally interviewing with parents and the potential ladies. Its all logic from here on out when I base my marriage, enough of this emotional BS. For me, personally, I dont believe in dating anymore and Ive found many faults in any sense it can make.
For yourself, however, thats prob different. have u been in exclusive relationships only? have u tried dating several people at once? Often times people on dating websites misrepresent themselves. You could also try to see a counselor. Sometimes when people have many failed relationships they tend to subconsciously carry issues in from their previous relationships and that can develop patterns if those issues arent resolved over time. Hope this helps. Best to you :)
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