A
female
age
22-25,
*unnyRosette
writes:My parents are overly protective. They are the type of parents who don't allow us to date unless the guy is willing to ask them to date us.Just wanted to clear that up first. I have a boyfriend. They don't know about him. The first time they allowed it. Then he broke up with me because of some issues. They hate him now. He wants to take me on a date now and since this is the first thing I've done behind my parents back I don't think I can lie to them again. What should I do?
View related questions:
broke up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2016): How about asking your parents if you could try dating him again but starting off with a few family dates - as in he comes over and you all (family too) play games/have a meal/watch a dvd/go to the park etc. They then have a chance to get to know him better, it is not costing anything and it is a way to regain their trust. If your boyfriend does not like it then I would break up because having your families support is important. Also if you sneak around, sooner or later you will be caught. I would sit your parents down and tell them honestly you think he has changed, that he feels like he made a mistake and that you would like to try dating again but doing so at your home first. That way, if it goes wrong and you break up again, well then YOU still gained your family's trust. Where as if they catch you secretly dating, you might find yourself grounded for a few months and you lose your parent's trust.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2016): Tell your parents the truth, that's right thing to do. If you lie to your parents, and they find out, they will never trust you like they did before again. If you want to date the boy again, just talk to your parents about it, and say that your mature enough to make some decitions for yourself. If needed, the boy can come over and apologize to your parents and ask for another chance with you. Just don't lie to your parents, they are there to protect you.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2016): Well, I've been in the same situation as you.. And my parents didn't allow me to date either and was very protective too. I went behind my parents back too and I'm still doing it in fact. Well maybe for you would be different. I suggest you talk to them, tell them how you feel. My parents are from older generation Chinese so they think like the older days.. And they are not accept ice towards my happiness...
As for you, talk to them and see... And well, if you really do like this guy, you can give him another chance. If you end up being like me well, just be careful about your words and stories you tend to tell them if you're sneaking around your parents. I know it's not ideal but like sometimes you're just with no other choice(like me).
...............................
A
female
reader, Songwr1ter  +, writes (1 January 2016):
At the same time that it's important to respect your parents, it's also important that you're happy. So you are right, about not to lie to them.
You and your bf should talk to your parents together. Make sure for your boyfriend to explain the issues, and to explain how much he wants to be with you. Tell your parents that everybody makes mistakes, and everyone deserves a second chance.
Tell them, that while you know they don't like him, they need to think about your happiness too.
...............................
A
female
reader, missy-97 +, writes (1 January 2016):
hi
I remember what it was like to be 13-15 and i believe at this age its important to explore your sexuality and preferences in guys.I believe you should see how you feel after the Date and then if you think its going to be serious or long term then tell your parents.
...............................
|
