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writes:Hello everyone! I just moved back to the city and found a flatshare in a great location, all bills included for 400. The tenants are wonderful and the landlord when I first met him was great. I am 23 and my landlord is 29 so quite young. The problem is, I really like him and I feel the feeling is mutual. He isn't a landlord who doesn't know his tenants; he knew them all very very well before he got the property and just moved them in. He hangs out with them and is at the property quite a lot, goes out for lunch and drinks with us all.Anyways my problem is do you think its bad if we dated? He owns only one property privately so he doesn't mix with other businesses so his rep wouldnt be scolded if he dated a tenant.Also I am not the kind of person who is expecting free rent as a lot of people have assumed. I know its a mortgage he is paying for so I know I am binded to a contract and in no way do I have a hidden agenda about not paying. I generally really like him as a person and really want to get to know him better. I dont plan on living there for long, maybe 4 months at the max and so would atill like to meet up with him after I move out What do you guys think? Bad idea? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2014): He's probably in a relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2014): If you're really only planning on staying there a few months, I would hold fire until you've secured yourself another place and given your landlored notice that you're moving out.
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reader, Angora998  +, writes (23 July 2014):
I wouldn't. You never want to date someone that has a key to space, especially if things do go south on you. The same with dating a neighbor.
Wouldn't it be terrible to date someone, not workout. Than watch the new girlfriend go in and out of his place. Same principle with a landlord. But the landlord has access to your space if things do not work out ... it's not like you can just change the locks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2014): You'll also have to think about the probable fall out with the wonderful tenants if you get any preferential treatment for sleeping with (dating or not) the landlord. Wait until AFTER you move out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2014): If you don't expect any preferential treatment, pay your rent on time, and realize there will be a lot of awkwardness in the set-up. That's up to you.
I personally would prefer to keep it strictly business. You'll start to expect certain things out of the usual; because you are dating. You claim you wouldn't now; but the odds are that you will over the passage of time. Dating offers special access and privileges not given to the rest of the tenants. I think it will do more harm than good. What if you have a serious falling out? What if his interest is purely sexual, and nothing else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2014): Bad idea until you move out - just like it would be a bad idea to date your boss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2014): The only problem is what if it doesn't work? Is he the sort of person to kick you out? I don't know, just questions you need to think about.
But it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about the free rent thing, it's none of their business.
Dating your landlord isn't a bad idea, you can date who you want, and like you said, you're not planning on living there long so what does it matter. Go for it. Just be sure it's what you both want and he won't turn on you and leave you with nowhere to go if it goes sour.
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