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writes:I found this site by googling the same question almost as Honeybun. I am an older woman - divorced for almost 10 years - had a financee 6 yrs ago for 4 rocky years. My thing is I am older over 50 and maybe I shouldn't complain....please keep reading....I have men from 25 up come on to me - I STILL have men check me out smile at me etc. - I COULD go to bed with a man every week if I choose. BUT I have been fighting this - I am also excuse me very sensual and sexual, but I have not had a relationship in 6 years! So when I man comes near me and I have alcohol - well.... But also if I don't go to bed with them they lose interest. I don't know it's like having a few dates and my attention is enough for them and they don't want to be my "brother". Last week was the worst, I went to a party with a male "friend" but I swear he used the date drug on me because I do not remember anything of that night except two drinks, and realising I was having sex with him. I do look sexy I guess. Fit body, european looking face.... I am down, each time I meet a man I think he could be the one, but then once again, he is a big not. I have tried internet dating with almost the same results (no sex) but is gone. I know I am not boring although I am rambling right now. I am losing faith in myself mostly. Advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): I believe the best advice for you is to spend some time with yourself, alone. Only when you enjoy your own company and find yourself interesting, will others follow suit.
It sounds like your only interest is men, this is not stimulating in the long run. Men are easy to have sex with...that's never a problem.
Now, I am not being mean to you...I myself am 47. I am single for 8 months now and am not looking for anyone. I have gone back to school, spend time with my children and have my grandson once a week, and get a lot of exercise. I could get laid no problem.
The interesting thing is, since I am not looking for a relationship, the men that I meet seem baffled that I am not interested in getting into a relationship and it is almost like a 'challenge' to them. I have a really nice choice in men, but I am staying true to my quest to find out who I am and not let a man muck things up for me right now. Perhaps you should try it :)
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