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writes:dear cupid ;i have been seeing this guy at work for 2 months and I think i'm pregnant by him. Told him 3 weeks ago that I think I'm pregnant.But i think he is married. He hasn't touched me and we haven't made love since i told him i was pregnant 3 weeks ago.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (6 April 2013):
 Ok im gonna get tough here!!
You cannot waggle your fanny at some guy suspecting he is married and then throw your illegitimate pregnancy in his wifes face. That is the action of a bitch to be honest.
You think his wife deserves that?
You think he's gonna choose you if you ge all up in his face?
You are not thinking straight.
OK he has a large investment of shit in this and he has some serious business to sort, but you need to stay away from his wife. You think you can trap a guy just because you allowed yourself to get pregnant??
He needs to pay his share but lets not get carried away here, you have only been messng with him for 8 weeks???
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (6 April 2013):
 Looks like you've stepped in to that classic trap of a guy willing to bed you... and not looking beyond the next 15 minutes... as to how he will react if you are pregnant as a result.....
You can - and should - "keep his feet to the fire... as to supporting you for that dalliance.... but, beyond that, there's not much you can do...
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe and i work together so we see each other all the time he seems happy to k now he is going to be a dad but at the same time he doesnt seem to care about his kid oh imsure he is the father of my child no doubt about it but i told him to tell her or i was so he doesnt kn ow what to do now.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (6 April 2013):
Crikey!!! If he is married and having an affair on the side with you which has resulted in a pregnancy, I bet he is crapping his pants right now!!
I am not going to lecture you, you are old enough to know what you have done is pretty dumb and irresponsible...so what are your options?
Fight for him, whilst you are pregnant and hope he leaves his wife (probably about a 10% chance)
Have a child on your own and go the whole paternity/child support route.
Have a termination (emotionally destroying but it's your body, your choice)
But before you do any of this...do a pregnancy test and find out if he IS indeed married...because at least you will know if you are on that particular playing field.
Have you even seen him since you told him? If so, what did he say about it all?
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