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writes:I was at a wedding the other day, and I caught eye with this boy who is also my age. As soon as i saw him I fell in love. I was too nervous to talk to him properly, but we said hi to each other when we were introduced. All day we were making eye contact and smiling often, it was so nice. Although.. our grandmother's are cousins. So that makes his dad and my mum 2nd cousins, And me and him 3rd cousins right? I seriously like him, and his parents said they are going to come down and see us all sometime soon. I actually can't stop thinking about him, even if i try. If ever we started dating, would it be bad? I mean, we're 3rd cousins! I really need to know, because I really want to date him! Please help! Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso, our families are not close at all. They live in Cheshire near Crewe, and we live in Wiltshire near Swindon. The wedding was the first time we had met their family. It was mainly our grandmothers that usually met up, even that wasn't on a regular basis. Would that help? Because if me and the boy never met at the wedding, but met some other time in the future, not knowing we were 3rd cousins, and ended up getting married. The only time we would have figured out we were related was at the wedding when the families came together. What would have happened then? So anyway, we're not close families, so it wouldn't be awkward if we did date.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (12 April 2009):
 In the UK there is nothing legally wrong with dating and even marrying first cousins, let alone third cousins. Some religions, such as the Catholics, disapprove of dating and marrying between cousins. In fact, many churches refuse to marry first cousins.
The main problem would be if you dated this boy and it didn't work out - I suppose you would have to see him in the future at family events? It might make matters a bit awkward for your parents and his parents, and they may disapprove since you are technically related to him (albeit quite remotely).
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (12 April 2009):
 No 3rd cousins although is a bit weird is actually ok to date, as long as both your parents are ok with it and he actually wants to date you it would be fine.
Just one point though... You don't love him, you have a crush on him, that is what love at first sight is... a crush! Love is a much more complex mix of emotions you only get once you actually know someone, how they think, their personality and everything about them, I had a crush on my wife when I first met her but I wasn't in love with her till I actually got to know her properly.
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