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writes: Hi i am slightly confused.Since me and my girlfriend met my girlfriend from a very early stage (3 months) started saying things like 'When we get married' and stuff. And i found it very strange as she's my first girlfriend and i didn't think in relationships girls said that so early on or even said it at all. Its almost as if we're getting married and thats it. I kinda feel trapped even though I love her and want us too last as shes perfect for me etc. But i feel as though its her rules a lot.I laugh when she mentiones 'getting her an engagement ring' or just 'tut' or somthing and i can see her smirking as if she knows i don't like her mentioning it. Thing is her mum got married after 8 months and so other people in her family and i feel she is the same. Far too fast paced for my liking.She makes me feel behind her a lot such as saying 'she loves me more' and 'she miss's me more' and 'i will miss you more when your away' she always has too have the upper hand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2006): Hi this is normal for women to talk about marriage and stuff when they love you! as Leah said.
Some women just feel the need to smother there men so they dont run off,
but really You sound like you have no intention of running off as you love her and your happy with her anyway so she has nothing to worry about but if she carrys on with this bridezilla stuff chances are you'll wont to run before you are marching though church ready to say "I do"
so Talk to her and let her know clearly that thats not what you wont right now its suposed to be an equal partnership so dont feel pressured by her family you are a person in your own right after all and you could remind her you chose to be with her so she could enhance your life and you hers the relationships is not an obligation or duty either of you are stuck with, tell her to keep it light and fun and enjoy this early stage of your relationship! hope this has helped you luv Ditzy blonde chick :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): i think u really need 2 talk 2 her! only way ur going 2 solve this 1!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): girls can get abit excited...u shud see it as a compliment in away..she really must like u..speak to her...n say we'll see how things go...its to early yet but i like u...good luck ...freind x
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Oh boy i think you better put her straight before it gets any worse like she turns into a bunny boiler, she's putting far too much pressure on you in the 3 months you have been together..YES you do get alot of girls like that ..its thier dream to get married and have babies..ok hun you need a good talk with her ..you lay down the rules for once ..tell her your not ready for any kind of commitment as you have'nt known eachother or been in this relationship for long and to just take one day at a time and see how things turn out ..tell her you love her make her feel secure but just not ready to get engaged..yes all girls talk about marriage with the guy they love its normal..you need to put your foot down because later down the line your relationship could lead to possesivness.. GOOD LUCK.. xLEAHx
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reader, Toria +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Have you tried to talking to her regarding this? if not maybe you should try and explain how you are feeling, tell her it's not that your don't see a future and possibly marriage together you just are enjoying getting to know her at the moment and when it feels right.
Good luck :o)
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