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writes:We are both 20 years old in college, and have been in long term (2 yrs lasting) relationships in the past. In a month will be our 1 year anniversary and we have not said I love yous or anything. Everything is still kept really light between us. Is this normal? I was talking to my friends and they all brought up that they told their boyfriends they were in love around 5-6 months into the relationship. Is one year a long time to have not felt that way about each other?
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reader, Staceily +, writes (18 November 2012):
 At this point I do think you should feel more towards him. It sounds more like a friendship the way you describe it, enjoy each other's company but that's about it. I don't think you will ever feel much more than you do right now. I'd say to talk to him and find out how he feels about this relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont know, I guess its because I just dont feel it yet. We go to the same college, maybe see each other 2-3 times a week and we talk on the phone everyday. I just don't know where we are at in the relationship. Shouldnt you feel like you are falling in love with this person every day that goes by? I feel like we are stuck at this point where we like each other and each other's company, but that's it. I dont feel like deep connection with him yet.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 November 2012):
 Do you LOVE him or do you LOVE the idea of having a BF ?
I DO think a year is kind of "late" in the game to not have said :" I love you."
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 November 2012):
 Yes it probably is. If you didn't feel it by now, you likely won't.
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reader, Staceily +, writes (17 November 2012):
Depends on how often you see each other and how you both are personality wise. You have been in long term relationships in the past, how long before you said "I love you" then? If it is in your nature to keep things light and/or you dont see each other very often then no worries. If you both see each other all the time (4+ times a week) and you normally have felt love in the past by this time then there probably is a problem not feeling that you love each other by now. If this is the case then ask yourself why you don't and what you are looking for with him.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (17 November 2012):
 Only you know when you are ready to say 'i love you' to someone. Do you love him? If you do then maybe you're both scared that the other one won't say it back if the other says it (if that makes sense!)
Maybe sit down with him and talk about it. Just discuss your feelings and hopefully things will turn out ok.
Good luck!
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