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*ckidd1991
writes:Heres the situation. I met this girl in class and finally on the last day of the semester got her number. we only talked once in person but w/e i got it. Immediately sparks flew and we texted everyday literally for hours before our first date. Our date went well but i didnt break the "touch boundary" because this was our first time being face to face. and after the date her mom and a friend were outside. Anyway we've continued to talk and are liking each other more and more. We planned our 2nd date to be tomorow but she just got a cold. sooo Im not sure what to do. I told her that going to a museum might not be a good idea because that is a long day and she would be miserable. and of course im thinking: what if its a disaster? it could mess what we have up. Also what a pain, about to break the touch barrier and shes sick! neway i told her at like 11pm that I would come up with some ideas/options and talk in the morning. She was clear that seeing me was more important than being comfortable but I KNO we will see each other again eventually. I told her we'd talk at 9am so ive got 8 hrs to come up with the ideas/options. Also if you could give me advice on a delicate way to say "I dont want to be sick" I mean, im cool with being sick for this girl but thats ridiculous. I also said that we could do something shorter so we can see each other but not have a long day. I'm not a germaphobe but i dont want to make out with her if shes sick. at least not now. If i wait to try to "be rational" when i see her all my logic and reasoning "skills" go right out the window, shes stunning!
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reader, xckidd1991 +, writes (19 May 2012):
xckidd1991 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. We actually decided to go to lunch. the time frame of the question was a little weird cus I wrote it last night but since i hadt verified my account it didnt post tile like 850am east coast time. Ya i thought about offering to bring her food but this is only date 2 and a little early to just hang out in her house. Ok, ill admit her USMC dad scares me. But thanks so much for your help and the info about colds. So interesting!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (19 May 2012):
 Why not do something like say, I'm really sorry you're feeling sick, what if instead of going out I bring you some soup and tea and bring over some movies to watch? You two can watch movies while she drinks the soup, then you can take off. Or you could even just bring it over for her to watch and then you leave. Just tell her at the end of the night how much you like her. She's not going to tackle you or something. I doubt she'd be in the mood to be making out if she has a cold. If she insists/asks directly, just say you're really into her, but don't want to get sick. I'm sure she'd understand.
Though as a side note, cold viruses are not transmitted through saliva. Only through (sorry to be gross) mucus. So sharing cups and kissing and such are not likely to make you sick. You're much more likely to catch it sitting next to her while she's coughing than you are to catch it through kissing.
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