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writes:We have been dating but someone told my dad about it and my dad got irritated and threatened the guy to stay away from me. The guy also told me to respect the decision of my dad to prevent him from getting in trouble. Now the guy wants us to be just friends even if i am in his heart. i love this guy but i dnt know what to do. Should i do what he said? The truth is, i dont want to be jst a mere friend of his. He deleted all his pic and sms from my phone. nd if i should do as he said, how can i forget him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell. my mom is out of de country. My dad thinks im too young to be dating, he thinks the guy wants to get me pregnant and leave me for good. The guy also claims he has told his parents about us and they agreed. Even today, my dad disgraced the guy and im not sure he will talk to me again. I can't leave without him, what should i do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 March 2012):
 Well is dad being irrational? Because maybe he sees something that you do not? Is it ALL boys you are not allowed to date or just this one specific fellow? Because if it’s PERSON SPECIFIC we need more info and it’s possible your dad is correct.
If it’s a general NO ONE can date my daughter… then maybe your friend is right to respect your dad and then your friend can come and spend time with you at your home with dad there so dad can get to know him?
What about your mum? What does she say???
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): While I would agree with Flynn, you never mention why your dad told him to stay away.
In my experience dad's love their daughters beyond comprehension and really just want them to be happy. Dating, boyfriends are all part of being happy so he must have had a very good reason for telling this guy to piss off. I don't know any dad's that would do that kind of thing to a nice boy or without a good reason. Even the most overprotective of dads wouldn't do that. They may impose very strict conditions but would never tell a boy to piss off unless he was bad news.
If I were you I'd first think of why your dad did this, I would seriously consider whether those reasons are good ones. You may like this boy enough to not think they are, or that the sun shines out of his arse and your dad is wrong, so I ask you to think carefully whether other people would agree with your dad and whether those things your dad thinks of this boy might be true.
You need to sit down and talk to your dad. You need to have a serious conversation with him. If you think you're old enough to date, then you have to show your dad you're mature enough to do so by sitting down with him and talking to him. Find out why he did that, find out what his reasons are and in a mature way, without throwing a tantrum, tell him your side and ask him for permission to pursue this guy.
You may find that your dad has very good reasons OP and is not trying to be unfair. You may think the sun shines out of this guys ass and are missing some very big flaws in this guys personality. Maybe he has a reputation for being a player but you think he's different or something. The only way to resolve this is to resolve it with your father.
If you go sneaking behind his back and he finds out, then I have no doubt a father like him will take whatever measures necessary to stop you seeing this guy and that's something I don't think you want to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): You are above the age of consent for the U.K... ergo your father now has absolutely no say in who you date. He can deny this boy entry into his house, but no more than that.
I would date, but just not bring him home until your dad grows up and realises he cannot look at you as a child forever... and that you WILL begin to need romantic relationships and your age is usually when they begin to form.
Flynn 24
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