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writes:I am a lesbian in a completely monogamous relationship. My partner and I have been together for about 2 years now and have known each other for 3. I've read about crying after orgasms, and it's been happening to me for a year or more now. I'm not exactly sure why it is happening and I believe she is getting quite insecure about it happening... thinking that I am sad about being with her or perhaps the orgasm is bad. Sometimes I even laugh after crying because I find it so silly. Or it is the best feeling in the world when she holds me while I cry. Now, this only happens at night when I'm exhausted and ready for bed. I normally do a LOT throughout the day and I'm quite burnt out. Another thing is we're in a long distance relationship right now and so even if we have phone sex it happens as well.. but of course only at night. I've read that this could be the cause of past sexual abuse but that is not the case with me. I would like some insight into crying after an orgasm especially at night. This will help me explain to her a little better so she doesn't feel so bad after sex... sometimes when I start crying, she does as well because she doesn't know the cause or what she can do to stop it from happening. Thanks... Sam
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): my gf and i have sex everytime shes sleep at my place
the first time she cried after we have sex im so shocked
i dont know what to do but then after an hour i asked her why
she cried? does she didnt like what we are doing? but then she
answered and told me that she was just so happy having sex with
me and afraid i will leave her after i get her virginity .....
ohhh shes so sweet she didnt know how much i love her
that i dont like her to think like that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): It is probably the emotional significance that you attach to the lovemaking which has to do with how impressionable you are(?) but it can also be the rush of hormones released during and after the act that make you experience rapid mood swings, hence your reaction to cry. Make sure you explain your partner that she should not be sad or embarassed or think you haven't enjoyed your closeness! If you see each other seldom since you are in a LDR, it is also possible that your tension builds up when you can't be near each other, you become anxious so when you finally can meet, you can release the tension and passion in this manner. It happens often at night because this tension is added up to the tiredness that you feel by the end of a difficult day. If this situation doesn't bother you and you actually feel better during and after expressing your emotions in this manner then don't look so much into it. However if you fall into a a very intense and unpleasant session of crying that you need to quiet down, then it might be a good idea to talk to your doctor about it and possibly see what you can do to adjust your hormone levels if there is a problem in this sense. All the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): FroggieGman is right on! I experienced the same phenomenom with only one partner I had years ago...the orgasm was so intense, it caused a flood of emotions...sometimes laughter, sometimes crying. Think of it more as tears of joy...that's actually what it is! Tears of gratitude! I think it is very romantic that you cry together!
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reader, SamC +, writes (8 March 2009):
SamC is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much... Thats what I know deep down inside but I can't help but wonder reading responses from other similiar questions. She's my soulmate and i've never done this with anyone prior.....
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reader, FroggieGman +, writes (8 March 2009):
An orgasm is the complete release of tension, sexual and emotional. Crying after sex is not so unusual. My wife used to cry after an especially hot night of massages, sex and g spot massages (She really loved those), she would cry, I would hold her,she would fall asleep in my arms. Very close realtionship. Your body is just releasing tension. Obviously, you and your partner share a very special relationship.
Good Luck
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