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writes:I am a twenty-five year old female working in the education field. (which is kind of irrelevant to the question, but anyway!)I have literally never had a relationship with a male. No boyfriends in high school, no boy friends in college. I have gone on two dates and that was with one guy two years back--I didn't call to meet him again. i can't say I'm an expert on relationships and I'm pretty shy and self-conscious.And so there is this...I can't tell whether what I'm feeling now is a desire for me to feel love or a crush, or whatever it is, or whether I really am feeling what I'm feeling.There is this colleague of mine...I met him last year at our workplace, didn't really get to know him and left before I could. I went through a 'crushing' on him throughout my stay there. (And I'd only spoken to him a few times)I'm back at the place where he is this year and I've found that my crushing has turned into something bigger that I almost can't stand it. I have never in my life experienced something like this before.I'm ecstatic when I see him, breathless almost--always wondering what time he would be in that morning so that I could try and catch him--just to say hello. (How pitiful is that?)I'm in a head over heels crush over someone I don't really know. (I don't even know if he has a significant other--female or otherwise) and our workplace situation makes it kind of hard to be too personal.I don't know what to do about this. I'm scared with how I might feel if I knew he had someone. I really like this man and I don't know what to do about it.(I jokingly one time said 'maybe he should take on my role for me cause I have no idea what I'm doing--he offered to look at his timetable to give me a bit of help understanding the work. I was joking!)Please help me understand what's happening, if there is anything I should do. If I should take a pro-active approach.I know it might be superficial, but I always figured that until I lose weight. (Which I'm working out in the gym for-- I'm about 5'4 and 89kgs) I don't want to get involved with anyone, I'm self-conscious enough that I probably won't ever ask him for a casual coffee and I'm not sure if he ever would.)What to do Cupid?
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