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writes:I have known my best friend since 7th grade, we hang out almost like everyday. Two's months ago i hookeed her up with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is on the swim team with me. Me and him see each other every day(in bathing suits. we also text all the time.) And I'm starting to fall for him. I feel like a horrible friend for liking him, but I have liked him alot longer than she has. I honestly dont know what to do. I dont want to ruin my relationship with either one of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): If you liked him before she did, then why did you hook them up if you wanted him??It's okay to feel what you are feeling, but definitely don't act on it. Boys will come and go in your life, but you will likely have your best friend for a long time, and you don't want to mess that up. I think you should stop texting him since he is someone else's boyfriend, and try to distance yourself from him as much as possible until you can get a handle on your feelings. Try to find someone else to like or something else to distract you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): I've been in a situation like this before. And the best thing to do is wait it out and stay friends with him. For people in your age range, most relationships don't last long. They'll probably break up sooner or later. When that does happen, continue to talk to him and be his friend. You want to make sure that he notices how good of a friend you've been to him so he'll realize that you would be good girlfriend material. You should also try to drop subtle hints that show you like him, but be careful not to be too obvious because that might freak him out. And if it turns out that he doesn't like you, don't worry about it. There are many other guys out there, and the right one will come eventually. When it seems like your best friend doesn't have feelings for him anymore and she's okay with the break up, talk to her about your feelings for him just to make sure she wouldn't be mad at you for liking him. It's important to be aware of her feelings, especially if you don't want to ruin your relationship with her. Guys are gonna come and go, but you should be friends with your best friend for as long as you can. I hope this helps! :)
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