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writes:I liked this guy for such a long time but it was always on and off and it's really complicated.There's no doubt that I never loved him but I guess it was always something like a crush.He never really did admit that he likes me but he always said that I was really cute and stuff to everyone.That was like quite some time ago.Yesterday I just found out that he liked me genuinely. He told his best friend who told me because his best friend is also my really good friend and he thought I ought to know.The problem is, he is quite unlike me. I study a lot and I almost never go out on fridays to party and stuff but he does. And also, I have important exams in July. They are important to me. The problem is that I wont be able and I wont want to go out on the weekends to hang out with anyone because I would want to study, therefore the only times that we'll be able to see each other will be at school. That's completely fine with me but I'm not sure about him.I want him to wait for me until the exams are over but we don't really know each other that well to talk about that yet.My friend also told me that this chance is extremely hard to find (when your crush likes you back) so I should seize the opportunity or I might regret it and ask myself 'what if'.I'm at a loss. My friend told him I like him. (I still can't believe she did!) And apparently he was really happy about it. But this is too fast. I think I'm going to literally runaway if he even comes near me, because this is too soon.I feel like I'm such a mean person...What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2012): Thank you Aunt Honesty and Bell16 so much for spending your time to answer my question.
I have been quite confused, and I must say that your answers did help me think better now.
I will think for myself. Yes, I will tell him the truth if he approaches me and asks and I'll tell him it's true that I like him but also how I feel about the exams and I'll also tell him that I don't want to rush things because I don't know him that well yet.
And if he does not agree with me, well then I guess he's most probably not the right one for me.
Once again, thank you guys so much for your time. I appreciate it a lot. :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 February 2012):
 I think you are right to concentrate on your exams at the moment. As you said they are important to you and they ensure that you have a good future career wise. I think you just need to be honest with him if he does come up to you and tell him you like him but that you need to concentrate on your exams at the moment so that means not going out at the weekends. If you both are meant to be together well then he should understand this and support you on it. Don't let your friends talk you in to getting in to something you are just not ready for. Be your own person have your own opinion and speak your mind.
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reader, Bell16  +, writes (4 February 2012):
You shouldn't feel mean, you're doing what's best for you and if your gut tells you that you aren't ready to make anything from this then you shouldn't. Don't let other make that choice for you, you should only be listening to your gut. Get to know him on a friend level before rushing into a relationship, if you find yourself comfortable at a friend level then when you feel like it's at the right pace go in.
Oh and another thing it doesn't matter if a guy is your slight opposite, if you like to study and he likes to party doesn't mean it will never work, because who knows how many things you will find in common?
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