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writes:She and I have been friends for going on to seven months now. Ever since we met, I always though she was beautiful but I never felt a real attraction to her. I thought this would be my first platonic relationship with a girl without either of us growing feelings. Well, a few months ago, she began to be more. . .hands on. She would often holds hands with me while we're walking out of no where. At first it shocked me but I began to think this was just how she interacted with people. She's a very happy and friendly person. Plus, it felt good to hold her hands as well. Like I said, she's very beautiful.Holding hands sorta progressed to her rubbing my back, her playing with my hair and her sometimes resting her head unto my shoulders over the weeks. This was when I began suspecting that she may be attracted to me. I pushed it to the back of my mind and wrote it off as my imagination going wild.But just a few hours ago, she asked me a question that could be a reveal of her true emotions. She approached me smiling and laughing, her usual self. She said that she was hearing a rumor and that she wanted to know for sure if it had any truth to it. She took my hand in hers and we walked, her still smiling, an attempt to diffuse any awkwardness. She then asked me if it was true that I had a crush on her.She said that some of our friends were saying so. It caught me completely off gaurd so I kinda stammered for a bit. I told her that she's a very beautiful girl and that any man would be lucky to have her (All true). . .but I didn't have a crush on her. She laughed and giggled it off and said that she was right the whole time. That she knew I didn't like her that way. She began to walk away but not before displaying a look of disappointment for a split second. I wasn't suppose to notice that.I tried talking to her like we used to a little later but she wasn't into the conversations. She tried to pretend like she was but I could tell she was distracted. What should I do now? Was this her way of confessing she liked me? I don't like feeling like I rejected her. I know how it feels to fall for a friend and not have those feelings returned. It's hell and I don't want that for her. What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2015): If you love your friend,find one way or another to bring it up in a conversation that your mind is on someone else.Be frank.Its like pulling off a bandaid.That's the fastest way she can get over you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2015): Thank you, notsohappy & chigirl.
I guess the reason why I never pulled away from her touches was because I DO like her on some level. I'm just not attracted to her if that makes sense. Most guys in our circle have wanted to be with her. The truth is that I'm crushing on someone else. If the circumstances were different then I would gladly try out a relationship with her. When we're together we're always laughing. She's kinda like my best friend from the opposite sex. It would be unfair of me to engage into anything with her when I know my mind is somewhere else.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 February 2015):
 Doesnt take a genious to understand that she likes you. As more than a friend. You did the right thing, told her the truth. But now that you know she likes you, do not encourage more physical contact. If she takes your hand, be sure to not hold on for long. Remove her head from your shoulder after a short while. Just do it casually, like get up, or take your hand back and put it in your pocket etc. She will take the hint.
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