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writes:Ok so 6 years ago, I was 8, and my parents recently had gotten a divorce. Being the charming man my dad is, he found a nanny at church to watch us and cook for us in a little less than a year. My nanny, that we still have today, also has two sons. One is four years older than me and the other is my age. I normally end up liking a boy that hangs out with the family a lot but her sons just weren’t attractive so I didn’t like them like that. But then, about two years later, I realized how funny and nice the boy my age was. He would help me clean and be super nice and was just hilarious. So of course I had to keep that to myself bc he was my nanny’s son, a family friend, and my brother’s best friend too. So I liked him for a while and I’m usually the type to only like one guy and the more I hang out with them the more crazy I get about them. So that happened. But then, all of a sudden, he got cute!! He matured in his face and body and got new clothes. He used to dress like a little nerd it was kinda creeping me out how cool he looked. So of course I’m throwing a little flirting out there now that we go to school together too. But I’m horrible at flirting so what my becoming 8th grade self would do is just ask to hang out more but whenever I’d walk towards him he would walk the other way. Turns out, I found out a week ago that he liked another girl around that time so that makes sense. So I’ve liked him for 4 whole years and I’ve literalky tried to be with other guys or tried to “talk” to other guys but he’s always in the back of my head and I keep thinking “what if he likes me now?” Or “maybe I should ask him if he likes me first and if not then I’ll be with this other guy”. But he probably already knows I like him bc my little siblings teased me about it when they found out 2 years ago but if always say no I don’t! Also!! Recently, he’s been texting me a lot and texting me first! He would never ever ever text me first unless it was about my brother so now that he’s doing it I’m thinking maybe his feelings are changing for me... we also shared secrets with each other and would play truth or dare on Snapchat. But then I get all weird sometimes and feel like I’m messing it up but also think that if he thinks I’m weird than that’s his problem but I want him to like me so I have literally no clue as to what it is I should do. Summing it up- I have a huge long lasting crush on my nanny’s son/ brothers best Friend and I don’t know how to handle this confusion, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2018): Bless you. You are 14 yrs old with a crush on someone who doesnt feel it back.How normal is that?Its totally normal.It keeps you skipping along happily while keeping him at arms length.I think he may think of you as his sister so crushes and kisses are taboo for him to even think about.Plus you live in the same house and your family might think it cute at first but most likely would consider it a disaster especially if the crush becomes the start of something.I would suggest you date one of the other guys as this one is too close to home to be realistic which is probably why you decided to crush on him because you feel the excitement without ever getting any closer and is therefore a safe bet.Maybe you could slow down on romantic feelings and think of other things you like to do or youre good at.There is no need to have a suitor right now at your age.Life has many opportunities and you might as well enjoy it as much as you can while consciously toning down those crushing feelings.
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