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writes:Dear Cupid,I am having a huge crisis with boys and my best friend Holly!! A few weeks ago she asked out a guy that I really like, but before she did... I never told her I liked him.He accepted and now I am really confused. In school they are not in any of the same classes nor ever see each other at lunch or breaktime. Plus they both live quite far away from each other. So i don't understand how they like each other so much, as they don't really know each other. I never told Holly and still haven't told her about my crush. I never wanted to tell her in the first place as I thought it would spoil our friendship, plus before she asked him out... i never even knew she liked him!!Please Help!!Love Troubled_Gal22
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): OMG, I totally get how you're feeling! I've been in an almost identical situation so I'm gonna try my best to help you by drawing on presonal experience coz thing's worked out pretty well for me.
Ok, first you need to decide how Holly will take it if you were to tell her. If she's as good a friend as you say, she won't fly off the handle. You don't even have to come outright and say it, just bring it up casually. It sound like you like this guy a lot, and I take it you have done for a while? I reckon it'd be best to talk to her about it.
If however, you decide that it's not worth losing her friendship over, you'll just need to accept the fact that they're together. It'll be hard and it'll probably hurt too but there's not a whole hell of a lot that can be done.
I really hope it works out coz I know how you feel. Good luck girl xx
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reader, Troubled_Gal22 +, writes (11 November 2009):
Troubled_Gal22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help. Any more answers??
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (11 November 2009):
 Hello, don't tell her that you like him because it may spoil the friendship. The same thing happened to me years ago when I was at school - agony at the time but a lesson learned in the long run about being careful who you tell those 'secrets' to. I am sure it must be awful to know they are dating when you like him, but this sort of thing happens all the time. Your friend didn't know about your crush so she is blameless. As with most teenage relationships it may not last long especially as they are not in the same class etc. Just sit back and just accept life can be a bit unfair sometimes! There will be other boys out there who like you too.
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