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anonymous
writes:A woman 12 years your husbands junior posts a comment on myspace you find disturbing enough that you ask your husband to take down his page which he does. She wrote "you're alone and so am i.. and no engagement is going to change that.. let's get together and party one last time before we both walk down the isle to hell." The partying they did before was her being allowed to party with other celebrity men at a function, no wives are allowed to attend and a bachelor party where she invited herself and had a 40 minute lapdance in front of him and his friends one of which she hooked up with. He thinks i should not be mad as the bachelor party and function where she was happened the summer before me when we were talking of dating again. He has not gone to the golf tournament for my sake as there is a chance she would be there.. Am i crazy to think she wants him? Am i crazy to say please dont go to the golf tournament for the four day weekend?
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (24 July 2010):
 Yep, the only way to put these tramps in their place is to bust up the fun. Did I hear someone say "road trip"?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Me again....Stuff it.. you ask me what I would do... well of course I would go.. but I would gatecrash with a ton of girlfriends and other wives... I would make sure the ladies go as well... for me that's the best solution.. dosen't bring up jealousy, but makes sure a fun exciting time is had by all...Damn.. I would just love to see them mens faces as they try to explain.. hahahahaha... lol.. rofl...
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reader, Miamine +, writes (23 July 2010):
PS: If you know some of the other wives, why not let them know that this is how the husbands spend their time.. Maybe together you can work on getting invitations to see the entertainment for yourselves...
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reader, Miamine +, writes (23 July 2010):
ah, so these are two lapdancers.. the evenings entertainment... then yes, maybe your right... he shouldn't go... this dosen't sound like a work party where men get to know each other.. it sounds, from your description, like a bachelors party where men can indulge in reckless sex...
Thanks for all your patience with me... you are right, there's no reason for him to go, it's disrespectfull.. and you wouldn't be allowed to go to such things with a group of women...
ppppfffff... lapdancing, sexy calls, pretend lesbian sex... nope.. that's got nothing to do with golf or work... he's a married man, and if he wanted to do such things, he should have been like the others and not let you know everything...
At least give the dog some credit for being honest and putting himself in this shit... :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthey are women my husband became friends with at a bar. my husband is into "shocking" displays of behavior from time to time i.e. girl/girl lapdance anywhere anytime.. the three became friends and hung out from time to time.. its not a jealous thing.. i know what they look like.. its a respect thing.. no need to send pics or video of you in your underwear with your friends feeling each other up.. that friendship piece should have ended.. because although my hubby has said no to them, they are still in certain social circles agin from entertaining these men at the tournament and being asked for repeat performances
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reader, Miamine +, writes (23 July 2010):
I'm also a bit confused.. are these two whores who the guys have hired, or is the woman someone who is a work collegue and is there because she works in the same company?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (23 July 2010):
And there's no point asking what I would do.. I don't do jealousy....
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reader, Miamine +, writes (23 July 2010):
So do you believe that your husband and his friends are having a orgy gang bang with these two women?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni was just looking for a little respect. thats all... he has mantained it was benign but not in my mind. and thats ok. my opiion always was that if no wives were alllwed to attend dont hire the local trash to join in. especially when the trash gets around. how would any of you like it, if your s/o, male or female, invited their single (at times) opposite party whore friend for a weekend getaway innocent as it may be, and tell you, the loving s/o, you cant go? but they swear to you they never dated kkssed or held hands with this person just posed one time posing for a picture both she and him hugging each other blowing kisses at the camera.. just watched them act provocatively with each other for five or six hours.. are you truly that trusting knowing they will be there every year and say yes whole heartedly? no i dont trust her.. how aweful shes desperate.. yes i do trust my husband but tell me how fair it is to watch these girls rub and fondle each other while kissing each other and doing body shots
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe other wives dont know.. see thats the thing.. and maybe he hushes me because he doesnt want to cause an argument with them but when we run into other couples whos husbands go and my husband says "no wives baby for a whole weekend".. and i say smart ass ill admit.. "but single girlfriends are ok.." he hushes me every time.. or its hard not to have a red flag up when his friends ask if these girls are coming by saying.. "yo buddy.. you inviting the hotties up? yeaaa its party time again!!.. " sorry but a red flag goes off with that one .. especiallywhen hubby hushes him to play it low.. ( he already takes two business trips every year and goes to his rugby alumni weekend and to ft. myers to play golf every year without me.. four trips without a spouse every year like clockwork.. yes she behaived badly.. yes he has not gone this past year.. yes all the other men are married but didnt tell their wives about these girls because of what they were doing.. if it was innocent what arre they all hiding?.. yes he invited her to come party at a no wives getaway with the boys.. maybe sometime in the future this will not matter but knowing she would be there why on earth would anyone put themselves in a compromising position to get caught or have rumors fly? even if that is all they are.. and its funny.. hubby doesnt like it when i go to mardy gras without him based purely on the trouble you can get into down there with other girls! im not doing anything wrong and neither are the girls im with.. i can kiss other girls and dance on bars with them but not flash skin or have any boy toys along.. yea right.. funny how its ok for him to play but i cant in the same fashion..
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reader, Miamine +, writes (23 July 2010):
And no, you don't have to stay at home, if your going to torture yourself with ideas about your husband having fun without you. Hire a babysitter and call up some friends and go out for the evening and have fun yourself.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (23 July 2010):
I would trust my husband to behave appropriately.. you don't like this woman or her behaviour... but again, what does that have to do with your husband... A woman he knows behaves badly, but he's the one who has to give up golf and stay at home..
So what happens to all the other men who are going on this trip.. are they all unmarried, or do their wives just trust them a little more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't think i am punishing my husband. This woman was a friend of a friend. He had her number in his cell. She and her friend would call my husband at 3 - 4 in the morning and talk about their sex/drunk capades with other men and women that night. Is that appropriate? My husbands response to me was, "I can't control what they do." in which i would say.. thats right, but you can control yours and when did it become appropriate to call a married man at 3 - 4 in the morning? Yes i stepped in and called the one female telling her to stop calling my husband. Yes i feel guilty about his golf tournsment. I could say yes baby i trust you. I trust you not to do anything and think it perfectly normal and harmles for you to watch this woman and her friends grope each other and fondle each other and kiss each other provocatively as they drink with your friends. I trust you as they give each other lapdances and flash their assses as they are in their 20's and these men are in their 40+ years. in the bar infront of you and your friends and then sleep in an orgy with one or two of the guys.. I don't mind her flashing you and your friends her her new boob job because you are not touching her or doing anything inappropriate with her. And i don't mind siting at home with the kids while she plays "wifey" to all the men up there with her friends while i sit back here wondering whats going on. Is that what i am supposed to say? Im missing something as to where this behavior became appropriate. Would you care if your husband had a friend who did this with him and his friends while you were not around? Yes i feel guilty! everyday.. tell me how to let him go or how you would let your husband go to a weekend getaway knowing she who doesn't give a damn about what you say and your husband says im not doing anything wrong.. i cant help it if she acts klike ghetto trash.. why should leaving you home and partying with her and her friends matter to you? What would you say?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (21 July 2010):
If you have problems with this woman, then send her a letter or something.. But please stop pushing your husband round and blaming him for this woman's actions.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (21 July 2010):
Am i crazy to think she wants him?
Do you think your husband is an animal, ruled by his penis, with no loyalty or brains..
So she wants him, so what? I want Richard Gere and Johnny Depp as well.
She can want what she wants, but that dosen't mean your husband will respond.. Do you think your husband is weak enough to get pressured into sex by some woman who keeps throwing herself at him.
Why are you punishing your husband for this woman's actions.. I want your husband as well, he sounds nice, are you gonna now stick him in a cupboard and ban him from using the internet..
Your husband isn't a mindless dog. His a man who has a wife and some stupid woman making a fool of herself isn't gonna change that. Give him some credit, he's old enough to tell the woman that he's not interested, he dosen't need you to tell him what to do and how to act in this woman's company.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand one side note before you respond.. wives are not allowed to attend the golf tournament as ive been told "we would have nothing to do", and she was only invitd out because she was already up there with sixof her friends who were helping her with her on again off agan breakup from her fiance who bought her a new suv and boobs. nice pay back to him right? and what about the no women rule at bachelor parties? she broke both.. i feel she came onto my husband.. i feel justified to ask him to take his page down. hubby felt i didnt want him to have friends and sees this girlsactions as non of my concern as both acts happened before me. i feel because she left the bad taste comment on his myspace page that she crossed the line at that point as we were engaged and she then violated "my house". how do i respond to my hubby next year when he asks to go to the four day golf tournament knowing she has been? do i just suck it up? hubby has not told me all details of when she was there and that bothers me too. is he right iin that because this happened before me i shouldnt care? she crossed the line with the comment and her actions.. and no i have not confronted her.. she has a friend who i ended up confronting who was als a friend leaving inappropriate comments and drunk dialing my then fiance at 4am discussing her escapades. she didnt know when to back off either. i called her and ended that one in addition to asking my hubby to do the same. unfortnately she is a vendor of his and on occasion they need to talk. i asked him and her to keep it professional from now on.. not sure how that has gone. i have to trust it has. ive asked hubby if she has said anything inappropriate and he lashes at me that no woman would say anything wrong after i told her off. i feel she didnt have respect either as she appologized again on myspace before hubby pulled it down by saying "tell the wife.. sorry". i think she should have called ME to appologize. again am i wrong crazy or just a controlling "bleep"?
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reader, romany +, writes (20 July 2010):
 No your not crazy at all, I can wholey understand where your coming from, but....I dont think your being fair on him.
So far he seems he has done everything to try and eliminate your concerns, with the my space page, and he cancelled his Golf Tournament which as an ex golf widow, is a big deal. He is not responsible that he has some dirty slapper who is interested in him, infact she sounds so nasty, that was probably a copy and pasted statement sent to several people, and she wouldn't even remember his name face to face.
So do you trust him? if the answer is yes, just pity the poor nasty woman, and smile about the look on her face if she ever did approach your bloke and gets kicked to the kerb.
I dont think you got anything to worry about, but if she keeps contacting him, have a word with her, 2 should do. (the second ends in OFF).
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