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writes:I am crazy about my sister-in-law and have been for over 30 years. I have told her and tried to stop my affection but to no avail. Since her husband died 4 years ago it has got much worse. She says she has no desire for me but I don't beleive her as I think she's just trying to prevent the inevitable desroying the family!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (2 September 2009):
 Why would you want to destroy her family? That's not love, that's selfishness. This is a fantasy about YOU and it sounds as though she doesn't buy into it. YOU'RE the one with the problem.
If you can't manage your actions, then you are not really an adult--you're a spoiled toddler holding his breath till he turns blue, the willful child who runs into the street despite the danger, and you need to put yourself into 'Time Out'.
Limit your time with her to the absolute bare minimum required by familial obligations. Go find a counselor to seek help for obsessive thinking. Your doctor might be able to prescribe medication that would help derail your obsessive thought pattern.
And I'm with Birdy on this one, you're the brother of her DEAD husband. Not an erotic thought. Go take some cold showers and knock this notion that the destruction of her lovingly nurtured family is somehow 'inevitable' right out of your skull. Good grief, what a selfish man.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (2 September 2009):
 You are a blood-related relative to her dead husband.
YOU have been fantasizing about her.
She is your brother's widow.
ALL of these are facts, not fiction.
Really? You don't get it???
YOU ARE THE BROTHER OF HER DEAD HUSBAND.
It's not the biggest turn-on in the world, frankly...
There are rules of normal society, and there are checks and balances.
She is being a good woman and she isn't the one who is trying to destroy the family.
Sorry to be frank, but you need a reality check...
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