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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:basically my cousin is dating this guy who is a control freak. my cousin is only 18 and he tells her what she can wear, who she can see,etc. also i think he is abusive to her. her mum is very worried and has recently gone through cervical cancer. the boyfriend is stopping my cousin from being close to her mum, by brain washing her and telling her that she is his and she has to tell him everything. such as she goes to bed at 8pm because he tells her to! i don't know how to get through to her to make her see that he is no good and she needs to get out of that relationship before he gets more violent and completely destroys her life before it has even began.she used to have so many dreams for her future and now she has nothing. he has ruined her. She is now rude to her mum and does not talk about anything with anyone. her boyfriend has stopped her seeing her best friend. he is all she has. how can she be helped without being too harsh?we have all tried tough love, but it does not work. she does not understand that he is hurting her and ruining her life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): idk what to tell you but you do need to get through to her you need to explain to her that yeah she might be in love with this man but she needs a huge wake up call she is no 1s property. she needs to find a better man one that wont control her life one that lets her do her own thing when she wants but also gets his time with her. tell her she needs to live her dreams and not be a slave to someone else because slavery ended years ago! she needs to realize this man doesnt love her he owns her. he feels if he has power over her he can make her do whatever he wants and he feels impowered by that it gives me sense of himself. i know how that feels my step dad did that and is still doing that to my mother my step dad is a very horrible man he raped me and my sister. ur cousins bf could possibly harm her if she doesnt get out of that relationship my friend was in the same situation and her bf killed her. help ur cousin.
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