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writes:So I told my friend that I liked him and he told me that he wasn't ready for a relationship yet. I was really scared that our friendship was going to be ruined but luckily we're still pretty good friends cause he didn't want to ruin the friendship either. But he jokingly told me "who knows this could work out in the future". But he also didn't tell me he didn't have feelings for me though and avoided talking about it. Do you think this could work for us in the future or should I forget about it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 November 2018):
 I agree with WiseOwlE
He likes you as a FRIEND, no more, no less.
If you think staying friend will lead to a romance or relationship down the line then I think you have an ulterior motive that makes you, NOT his friend.
He told you he wasn't ready... what he really meant was... he doesn't want to DATE YOU, because he sees you as a friend only.
He shouldn't have joked about how maybe perhaps some day he might like you back enough to date you. That was in poor taste and giving you false hope.
I think... IF you are looking for a BF you might want to distance yourself from this guy and get out there and socialize. Don't sit on your hand waiting for him to maybe, perhaps be ready to date... Because when he WILL be ready, he won't be dating you.
Sorry, OP
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2018): I'll give you an honest answer. I think he loves you as a friend; and he said something nice in order to maintain the friendship he values. He doesn't want to hurt your feelings by outright rejecting you.
If he was interested in you, it would be NOW; not in the future. Take what he said as a joke; he was speaking only rhetorically! He avoided talking about it; because what was said should have been enough.
Anymore talk about it would have ended in rejection; and you wouldn't have handled it well!
He said he wasn't ready for a relationship; and you should program your brain to accept that means he doesn't want to turn your friendship into a romance.
He has platonic-feelings for you. If that's not enough, don't cling to him until he starts checking-out other girls. It will make you jealous and break your heart.
You're not a little kid anymore. You have to face things as they are; and not set yourself up with false-hope. Remaining friends, while hoping and waiting for more. The best guy for you will get passed-up in the process! While he ends-up with some other girl anyway!
If you can't forget about it, give your heart a time-out and some distance. Hang-out with other friends, or make some new friends. Maybe you have all your eggs in one basket!
Let your feelings/hormones cool-off! It might only be a crush that happened; because you haven't really considered or dated many other boys.
He just happens to be close, familiar, and you trust him. You have to venture outside of your comfort-zone, sweetheart! It might seem other boys don't pay attention or don't have his qualities; but you'll never know, if all your attention is focused only on him!
Buddy-crushes are normal. Everybody has them!
Falling in-love is only good when he loves you back, and in the same way!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (19 November 2018):
 Forget about it. Move on with your life. If it's meant to happen, it will do, but don't wait around for it.
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