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writes: dear cupid i need help.. i used to go out with this guy who i loved so much .. everything was going ok with us and than suddenly he stoped talking to me as he used to i got worried and asked him he said he needs time i thought he wants to break up becuase he asked for break. but i pushed things so far and he said he doesnt love me anymore and ignored me totaly.. i dont know what to do iam trying not to love him and think of my past but its keep coming to my head and it hurts me alot... iam getting on with my life but at the end of the day its him who i want...i dont think he will come back but somtimes i have doubts beacuse of my love for him and my feelings... the only thing i dont get is why he doesnt love me even though i havnt done anything bad... he told me its not me its him who's feelings are changed... Reply to this Question
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (15 December 2006):
 You dont have to do anything wrong for people to fall out of love. Unfortunately, if happens but you need to concentrate on what you can do not what you can physically change in life.
Try to keep busy and give yourself a break. Build your confidence and meet other people to allow to have a fresh start.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): I don't know what happened with you, but I am sorry that you are feeling bad first of all...what you are going through is what happens to all of us when a romantic relationship ends, it is very painful for awhile, and it is human nature to want what you cannot have, and to idealize the person that you lost, even though he probably does not stand up under close inspection....and if you could see through a clear lense not clouded by the sting of rejection....
Give yourself some time, and stay clear of this guy who says he no longer loves you, to do anything else is not healthy for you and will not make your life any better than it is right now.
You did not have to do anything bad for your boyfriend to stop loving you, he just is not ready for a serious relationship and wants to be free to date others, this is a part of growing up and finding a mate and figuring out who we want and what fits u the best....it does not mean that you are not a great gal and a very lovable person, he just is not the one you will be with forever, and that is OK....I know this does not make you feel better or even answer your question perhaps, because there is really not one answer to your question, but more than likely it was just the wrong relationship for him and or the wrong time.
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