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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have a long distance email friendship with a woman I used to work with. Every week we exchange emails. I tease her pretty hard just as I did when we worked together. I kind of think she's attracted to me but we often call each other "friend" as well as many other unsavory nicknames. We talk about each others' sex lives in detail. She acts as though none of the men mean anything to her, often making fun of them.The thing is the teasing. I tease her pretty hard, thinking she'll yield and finally say something submissive. Each time I think I've "won" she writes back with a new angle and teases me back. So I have to find a new angle to get ahead again. Each time I send my email I worry that I've gone too far and she'll get very hurt and angry. So far she hasn't and things keep escalating. I worry about it more and more up until the day she usually writes back. It has become very intense and mean sometimes but I'm enjoying it and it's very sexy.I cannot tell her I have feelings for her because that would ruin everything. I'm supposed spend a weekend with her in April. I can see this chemistry erupting into sex but it would only work if we don't talk about it. Am I being ridiculous? Is she just my friend and I'm just fantasizing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): O.o maybe being 'friends' is what makes it hurt less. As if you were her bf she of been slightly insulted more. I wouldn't say anything about how you feel and let the weekend unfold naturally as it should. Enjoy it. It will obviously lead to sex - wink -. However, if it doesn't and you still feel you like her, maybe then you can play a submissive card in your next email eventually leading up to what you really wish to say. Because the emailing charade wont go on forever!
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