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writes:Hey everyone, i have this huge crush on one of my friends. He is very good looking, has a wonderful personality, and we have a lot in common. Everytime i see him I get a weird feeling in my stomach and i get all tingly. I think about him all the time. I am really nervous when I go over his place but i really enjoy hanging out with him. He seems nervous around me too but we always enjoy talking about running and going running together as we both find running as our passion. I love it when he hugs me and touches me when we cuddle and sit together, he is just such a sweet and hard working guy. I feel like I am falling in love with him and I seem to have no control over it. I have never felt this way with someone before. Recently I have just started to become very sexually attracted to him as thinking about pleasing him that way really arouses me. I never wanted to tell him how I felt cause I do not want to ruin our friendship.I mentioned to him that I really like him but right now I would like to be friends with him right now as he is getting ready to go into his first year of medical school(this september, he took a year after college off to get some clinical experience and I am doing the same thing after I graduate.) and I am finishing up my last year of premed in college. I did not want to put too much pressure on him. He agreed with me saying no relationship although I really like you as a friend. Okay so we are on the same page..i think.Is this more than a crush? I am just soooo attracted to his personality, the fact that he is such a hard worker, of course his looks and the fact that we have so much in common. I have never felt love for someone like this before alhough I have had crushes on past guy friends but they never felt this intense. What to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): we have the same issue, my best friend and i have been friends since the first grade were in high school right now and lately i feel like i wanna explode when he comes near me
so i try to avoid him since ive already got a boyfriend but its very hard since were in cram school together...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for your posts guys!! =)
princessjasmine im glad to see that someone else is in the same position as me. I do go crazy when I am with him but try not to put too much pressure on him right now as his life is going to change dramatically once he gets into med school. I am not sure about telling him that I am falling for him though, I let him know that I liked him a lot and im going to leave it at that for now. I am going to continue being close with him and see if anything escalates. Right now he doesnt need any more pressure on him.
Tisha-1 Thank you for your advice I dont want him to feel strange around me if I decide to tell him that I am falling for him. I have already mentioned to him that I liked him a lot and he likes me a lot too. But I just have a feeling he is going to be really busy in med school and not have any time. From what I heard your first two years are very hard and you dont even see daylight!! lol Im going to be in that same situation in comming years so the last thing we need to deal with are relationship obligations! lol I think i am going to continue enjoying his company like you said and wait to tell him that I love him.
Thanks so much for your replies. =) I am glad to know that others feel this is probably more than a crush too so I am pretty sure I must be clicking somewhere with him. Right now we both have challenging years of school ahead so we are putting off a relationship.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (1 May 2008):
 If you guys are sitting on a couch, cuddling up... I'd say go for it! In fact, stop reading this and go hand out at his place! This the fate knocking on your door! If you two end up in different med schools, you're going to spend the rest of your life wondering if what you were feeling would have ever matured into something so fantastic...
I say plant a big wet one right on the lips and see what materializes!!
Go get'em!!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (1 May 2008):
 What to do? Enjoy the whole situation! It sounds so nice.
Med school is going to be a huge stressor in his life soon, and he just won't have much time for just hanging out... So let him know you like him and just enjoy this lovely swoony feeling.
Good luck with your future, come back and post wise medical answers for us!
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (1 May 2008):
u sound so much like me! My guy is good looking, hardworking, and I wanna please him which gets me so bad...i never cared about anyone like this before...if this is how u are now...u are gonna go crazy wen ur with him...ur falling and i think u shud def tell him....its so cute:)
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