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writes:Is it wrong to think he's too good for me? Theres a guy i like, a lot, and i havent known him for very long, he's quite shy but is friends with a lot of 'popular' people from our old schools and seems to be the general joker of the group. He seems like a really nice guy, good morals etc but because iv never been 'in with the populars' i cant help but think social status would stop anything from happening between us. we have left school now, so things are a bit different but i cant help but think this would get in the way. I really like him but im worried what his reaction would be.Do you think social status would get in the way? is he too good for me? i dont want to get my hopes up and end up getting crushed....please help. x
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Don't ever think ANYONE is better than you, above you or too good for you. We are ALL human beings, we ALL are born, live, poop and die. Everything in between is a fantasy.
You have to make your own reality. If you think someone is better than you, you are no giving yourself enough credit. Everyone is different, some people are more physically attractive, better at sports, higher IQ etc, but that doesn't make anyone superior morally or spiritually. We are all equal.
I think form my experience of "popular" people at school, that they can be stuck up people who have no concept of the real world. Because people have always told them how wonderful they are, it can make them very concieted, arrogent, not very nice people.
If you like someone go for it. Just remember, if he snubs you or thinks you are benieth him, it is HIS problem. Being rejected is something we all have to learn to cope with honey. But you have to think, nothing ventured means nothing gained. If you really like him, is he worth the risk? Just try to be relaxed and confident in yourself when you approach him, and if he rejects you(kindly or not), take it on the chin, and move on.
The right guy would jump at the chance to get to know you better. Believe in yourself honey. You are a beautiful person!
Good luck!
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reader, Bella555  +, writes (28 November 2010):
If you're as concerned as you seem about your former school statuses getting in the way of a potential relationship, you may want to give your attempts to start anything with him some time. The designations that weigh so heavily on how people are perceived by themselves and their peers while in school tend to fade with time, and only the most insecure among us continue to define themselves by these limited parameters throughout life.
Fact is, he is in no way "too good" for you--you're simply differing personality types who wound up in social circles that did not seem to intersect. If you'd like to get to know him better, find out what you hold in common, and try striking up conversation at some point. Do this away from whatever remnants of your school cliques may linger around him or you, and away from the expectations of your past associations--it will help you feel freer of everything that seems to be holding you back. Be confident, funny, interesting, and a little bit unavailable, and you may start a fire in him for you. Alternately, you may also wind up friends. Worst case scenario, nothing really happens, but who's to tell if you don't try?
Take a chance. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): maybe if he keeps acting that way
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