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writes:Dear Cupids,I got little issue with my girlfriend. I really like her and love spending time with her. However it seems like as our relationship is moving along (5months) she has been getting increasingly negative about herself and myself. I don't know if its just something within me that im noticing but it feels like she kind of pulling us both down. She makes comments like "I don't think I would be able handle this if it happened to me", "I would be intimidated", and other negative comments. I know there is a degree of sharing that is required in a relationship with fears but shes maybe talked herself up about 2-3 things. Maybe im just noticing it around her but it feels like shes not confident in herself. Every time she says one of these things I insert a dose of optimism in the conversation but it feels like shes just putting herself down. We could be talking about whatever and she'll have a defeatist attitude about it. She used to complement me alot but it really takes the wind out of her sails when she doesn't look at herself the same way. Is it possible that some of her might be rubbing off on me? Cause I feel like some of the things she startin to say are becoming self fulling prophecy. I know knock on wood cause i said that but what do you guys/gals think? Is just me noticing the negative things about her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): Yeah its possible that her attitude is rubbing off on to you - especially if you guys see each other a lot.
My advice is to talk to her, openly and candidly to see if something is going on with her personal, personal, personal life that she isn't telling you.
If she wasn't acting the way she is now when you guys first met, something is clearly bothering her to point that she has developed a negative outlook on life.
So talk to her, but tread softly - be caring and supportive when you find out what's going on. Don't rush into the conversation with "Why the hell are you always so negative?!?!!" lol
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