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41-50,
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writes:He is avoiding a relationship out of insecurities?I recently hooked up with a guy I met on match.He is 52 and I am 40. After several dates and a sleepover he went ghost on me, and left me scratching my head why he'd wanted me to stay but nothing happened. I was just hurt he went poof on me.He contacted me again a few weeks ago and never offered up much of a excuse. So I asked him what he was looking for and he replied a cuddly monkey, someone to hug and snuggle up with.I thought this was cute but not believable.He invites me over for dinner and to snuggle,Out of curiosity I accepted.I spent the night and we did snuggle as well as smooch.And this time things did go a bit further. I noticed that he may have erectile dysfunction and wasn't very big in that department either. I'm just curious from a male view. If this guy actually does like me but is scared of getting too involved. Would this put him off persueing a proper relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, Garbo  +, writes (2 November 2015):
 As a guy, I interpret his actions as follows:
1) his sudden disappearance is a way for him to vet the women so that if after 3 weeks or so you are still interested then his first impression was good so he can build on it. (Also gives him time to date others). You met up out of curiosity but that isn't how he sees that so you should fix that.
2) his invitation to cuddle is subtle and cuts two ways: one is that it signals that he is a serious mate and not just after sex. Second, as you note, he has an erectile dysfunction so he wants to see how you react to that.
Not being able to get it up is viewed as devastation by men so if that is a problem for you I think you should be very upfront - soon. Find out how bad his dysfunction is and if it's a deal breaker for you drop him immediately so you can both move on.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 November 2015):
 I think he is dating multiple women, that would explain the silence.
Whether is is not dating "seriously" due to ED - I can't say. But I can say that he isn't on MATCH to find HIS match or a long term partner, he is looking for casual. Casual sex and casual relationships and he is using "cute" terms because he has found it gets him laid.
If you are looking for a BF/partner.. HE isn't it.
He IS the monkey here, jumping from "tree" to "tree".
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