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writes:I have been lied to and cheated on in the past by men.My current boyfriend (of 8 months) fully admits he cheated and lied in his 20's(he's now in his 40's). He once told a GF he was visiting family when in fact he had flown across country to see an ex. He says he loves now having a clear conscience. I trust him for the most part but there is part of me that doesn't. Tonight for example, we talked about going out. Then he said he was going to nap and would call me in 40 minutes. By midnight (an hour and a half later) he hadn't called so , I called him back. He pickef up but said he was tired but staying in. Now the crazy part of me wanders back to his past. Could he have another girl over ? Could he be out with her, or worse , in his house with her? If he was - he wouldn't have picked up the phone at midnight? I feel like I need reassurance - but it would be insane to physically check up on him - right?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you.
I just find it so hard to trust fully. I know it's insecurity and I need to find ways to combat it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2013): If he did this in his 20's and hes now in his 40's he's clearly had time to change and if he loves you then he won't cheat. The fact that he was tired after midnight is no reason for you to think that he would be cheating. He's done nothing to make you think he would cheat so enjoy being in a relationship and learn to trust him. This is more to do with your insecurities from past relationships rather than what hes done in the past.
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