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writes:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-he-avoiding-me-or-am-i-over.html --Continuation of this issue with a new question attached.Well, I got to talk to him, and he told me that he wasn't upset at me, but he also said he doesn't know what was wrong. If he knew what it was, I'm pretty sure he'd tell me, even if it was hard for me to hear (it's happened before going both ways). He said he honestly can't place why he's being so withdrawn, and was surprised when I told him it's been going on for two weeks. I don't think he realized it until just now.So... he's withdrawing from me, and from classes now that I've found out, and spending all his time playing games, which has been a way to calm himself since he was really little. Is he depressed maybe? I'm honestly not sure what could get him so distant for two weeks if he says that I haven't done anything... :( And is there a way I can cheer him up if he's being so withdrawn, or would it be better to see if this mood fizzles itself out?I just found out now that he can't pinpoint the problem, so I don't wanna assume things and go "Go see a doctor" because that would probably upset him for real this time.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 December 2010):
 No, he doesn't have the symptoms of depression. He still has interest in his video games. When you're depressed, you lose interest in activities you used to enjoy. He sounds like he's stressed out in general, possibly from school, maybe your relationship, and your clinginess. You also mentioned he was a WoW head. That game is very, very addicting. My husband used to play and used that as a way to relieve stress. If anything he sounds addicted to WoW. I'd let him go another few weeks and see what happens.
http://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/detecting-depression
Since you know your boyfriend, you can make your own guess in whether he has depression or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): I don't like the diagnosis "depression". I think mostoftentimes depression in a person stems from environment, major life changes they were unready or unfit for, starting to think more of the past, a sudden assessment of where their life is at the moment... being unhappy what their life has become for them. Trying to understand where things went wrong or understand their very selves... getting philosophical, if you will. ("Mid- life crisis" goes along these lines. "Cold feet" before a wedding or other big change, as well). Are most philosophers very happy? Very optimistic? Are most hermits philosophers? Are philosophers the life of the party? Certain minds/personalities/characters are more prone to this philosophy habit than others! Certain lifestyles can force one into that mental state, as well. (Some in a deeper way.) A combination of the two can be rather detrimental to one's social and emotional life. It doesn't mean they are depressed 24/7... moods in general go up and down. The rates vary from person to person and stage of life to stage of life. Some people will take more extreme actions than others might. Some people are more dramatic than others. This is not a negative thing.
Anti- depressants are prescribed when these environmental/lifestyle things cannot possible change at the moment.. or for quite some time. Some people will need them forever, because their life is set into place and will always be similar... most do not.
But I'm not a neurologist or psychiatric professional... this is just the theory my own philosophical states in life have led me to...
Tante Victoire
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