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writes:If a man in his late 30's is having problems getting an erection and starting to have less of a desire for sex, could this be from an accident he had many years ago? He fell and broke his back, had surgery where his back looks like a railroad track literally and he does have one leg longer then the other, but not by much but does cause him to limp. He doesn't want to talk about it nor see a doctor because he is afraid of taking any drug that could possibly be harmful to him. Many of the drugs now for this "problem" do state mostly no side affects, but are there really any to be worried about? He knows I love him more then anything and would do anything for him, however, I just want us to be able to have a normal sex life. I don't want him to be afraid of going to a doctor, but we know how most men hate to go. What do I do and how can I persuade him to go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): I broke my back 17 years ago after falling from a ladder. I too have a scar down my spine where the surgeons fitted something called a Harthill rectangle, a rectangular framework of stainless steel wired to my spine which, whilst the broken bones were healing, held my spine together and prevented any further neurological damage. I also broke my right heel bone and femur in three places which resulted in that leg being about 3/4" shorter than the other. I can still walk, albeit with walking sticks and I have what the medical profession calls 'an unusual gait'.
Initially I 'suffered' from priapism which basically gave me an erection which just would not go away, and which is apparently common amongst spinal injury sufferers. Great, you might think, and I did too but unfortunately I could not bottle it and sell it, and some time later this wore off.
I now have erectile dysfunction which is attributable to the injury. It wasn't easy, but I plucked up the courage to go and see the doc who prescribed Viagra, which worked a treat. I have since moved on to Cialis, which lasts for about two or three days instead of about 6 hours as with Viagra, and my sex life is back to normal.
The side effects of both drugs are that you tend to get flushed about the face, have a slight headache and have difficulty swallowing food because it causes the oesophagus to close up slightly. Cialis is the preferred option because of the time it takes to wear off. You can take the pill one day and have sex anything between about 1 hour and two days later, which takes the pressure off having to perform to order.
It does take guts to go and get help from the doctor, but once that barrier has been overcome and the embarrassment of admitting there's a problem have passed, it's no big deal to go and see the doc to get more of the drugs. They don't work for everyone, depending on the severity of the injury, but if he ever wakes up with an erection there's nothing wrong with the 'plumbing' and there's every chance that medical intervention will change his outlook on life and his sex life - and yours too!
There IS life after a spinal injury, and I am testament to that.
I wish you well.
Ronnie
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