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writes:okay,I've been freaking out for the past 2 days now. Me and my girlfriend spent the weekend togather on holiday and we were fooling around when we went to bed and then she went on top of me and and we started to have sex but it was literally just 2 or 3 slips into her. I wasn't wearing a condom and she wasn't protected. Her period isnt due for like 1 - 2 weeks but im just so scared those couple of slips into her may have done something.I dont want a kid yet and i know full well she doesnt!!please help.can someone please shed some light onto the situation so i can sleep.thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007): I would suggest you not believe the notion that if you 'don't ejaculate inside your partner' that she cannot get pregnant. One has to consider the pre-ejacualte also known as 'Pre-cum'. It's that clear liquid that comes out of the male's penis just prior to ejaculaion. It is like a secretion. Pre-cum can contain sperm. There is no way to control pre-cum, and the amount can vary from man to man and situation to situation. Be very careful in the future and always wear a condom.
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reader, Farris +, writes (6 March 2007):
 maxsteel86, I think your information is also incorrect...
The figure is actually 2-3% failure rate, and it says this on EVERY BOX of condoms (check it out).
BUT... This is ONLY when the condoms are used exactly in the way that the instructions tell, and there are many ways in which you could not do this. For example, the condom could slip or break, or you could have put it on inside out... These are all conclusive to INCORRECT usage, and so this has to be factored into the failure rate.
Obviously, condom companies are going to go with the better figure which is the 2-3% which is indicative of the "practice failure rate". 10-15% is the "actual failure rate" over the average of users.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): Those could have very well be very dangerous slips, hun. I agree with Farris totally, when she points out that any contact between a vagina and a penis (even those little slips in and out) could mean the serious, life altering consequences of a pregnancy. You are 50% responsible so start using your smarts and always, always, always from now on--start using better contraceptive methods and remember, even then, not all contraceptives are a 100% surefire, method of avoiding pregnancy. You take a chance every time you have sex, dear...that is harsh, true reality. Sorry, you'll have to wait until her period comes in a couple weeks. Take this time to think of better ways to avoid these issues should she end up 'not' pregnant. Good luck
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (5 March 2007):
 Rhythmandblues2, just a little mistake on your info, condoms have a failure rate of only 0.02% per year when used consistently and correctly
http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/factsheet/fscondom.htm
as for kurt's problem, its very unlikely that she'll be pregnant but either way, you wont know for another week or 2 so its best to keep it out of mind till the time comes. Stress and anxiety can delay her period.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (5 March 2007):
 There is a chance the girl is pregnant from this encounter. What were you thinking? If you're going to be putting yourself in these situations you both need to sit down and have a serious chat about contraception. I recommend using condoms and the pill to be safe and being sure you're ready and mature enough to be in a sexual relationship and being mature enough involves being aware of all possible scenarios and being willing to deal with the consequences if she were to fall pregnant or whatever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): Here is some light on your situation, you are both 16 or 17 years of age, still living at home I bet and not in any financial position to raise a child from an unwanted pregnancy.
Condoms used alone have on average a 14-15% failure rate, meaning 14 to 15 people who use them will become pregnant (this statistic does not count breaking condoms)
Using spermicidal foam along with a condom IF used properly raises that failure rate to 1 in 99.
The best form of birth control is the pill in my opinion because it is 99.9% effective and if used properly, you don't have to think about protection when the mood strikes, it is already there....but the girl has to take it everyday, not forget, and if useing antibiotics while taking the pill, she will need to use additional protection...Also, to remain effective the pill cannot be stopped and started.
There is a slight chance your girlfriend could get pregnant as you emit pre-ejaculate that contains sperm, and guys your age have lots of little swimmers....
The other option is abstinence, as your girlfriend and yourself are awfully young to be sexually active and if you don't want a kid that is the safest bet of all.
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reader, Farris +, writes (5 March 2007):
First of all... I'd be interested to know how you can "slip" into a girl whilst she's on top of you? =p
There are some pretty good pregnancy tests out there these days that can tell you whether your girlfriend pregnant even at this stage, I suggest if you're really worried about this then you should go and buy one (Or two if you want to double check).
The reality of the situation is that, yes; she could be pregnant. There is a very low amount of sperm in precum, so it's very unlikely, but still possible. In future, just remember, ANY contact between the vagina and penis (or secreted fluids) COULD LEAD TO PREGNANCY. Always have protection. If not condoms, then sugest to your girlfriend goes on the pill.
Don't lose too much sleep over this until you know for certain whether your girlfriend is pregnant or not. And don't forget, there are many options for you both, even if she is.
Good luck & best wishes.
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