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writes:Guys: Why would you not love someone after one year of liking them and 7 months of dating. For the first 6 months we only made out it never went further. He wasn't 100% for it but respected my wishes. But all he can still say is I really like you too. I told him once that I love him.... on msn cause I was about to in person but was scared of what he would say. what reason would you have for not loving me yet?
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reader, Over..worried. +, writes (6 September 2010):
Over..worried. is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yeaaa i know it doesn't have a timestable , but at my age i dont think like a week of dating can have some one fall inlove, either cause most people my age dont even really know each other. I was just letting you know we've known each other for a long time. And yea I am thinking he might be scared .......
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reader, Odds  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Love does not follow a timetable. For that matter, it may not evenbe in the cards for the two of you. I couldn't say which it is without hearing him talk about you.
I take it that you've just started having sex in the past month. Most guys these days will simply not say anything about love, and even those that will (with a handful of exceptions among the devout Born Again crowd) will not say "Love" until they've been sleeping with you for a while. Men bond with women through sex.
Additionally, saying "Love" over MSN really doesn't count - at least, it won't in his mind. I'd say wait a few months, then say it in person.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Yet? You think that love is a matter of time? That if you just stick it out long enough, he will fall in love? That is not how it works.
In arranged marriages some couples claim that over time they have developed an affection, even love for each other but this is only because the two go into the marriage knowing it is forever and accepting that "true" love, the romantic kind is not for them.
He might simply not love you yet because he never will.
The idea that time alone will change this seems very odd.
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