A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:This situation is confusing to me. I have been messing around with this guy for about 7 months, but I knew him the year before. It started because he was heartbroken by his ex girlfriend and I had been there to comfort him and he admitted that he had feelings for me for some time, but since he got to know me he liked me even more. So we started talking and he expressed himself to me, saying he liked how I'm very opened with him and that I trust him, but he cant have me and that he doesn't want to hurt me nor does he want to get hurt again, but I will get what I want (a relationship) and that patience is virtue. Anyway, we ended up kissing and then things started going to the next step after a while. He asked to finger me but I didnt let him for like 3 or 4 months...Not to mention he is a pretty big flirt..and a horn dog. But when I did let him finger me he was satisfied, and anytime I talked about something relationship related he changed the subject so I just stopped mentioning it to him because I didn't wanna make him feel like he was being pressured. Afterwards he just started becoming real sexual and no longer expresses his feelings to me. Our conversations are sexual most of the time. Sometimes he calls me, but we mainly text throughout the day and at times he'll just stop texting me, but I don't trip about it or mention it to him. He talks about he wants me to give him oral and to have sex with me but I refuse to do either with him right now. He has told me he trusts me more than I trust him and he would have sex with me without a condom and oral sex. He loves the fact that I won't mess around with anyone else and he's the first guy i've messed around with period. He's said that he wants me to be real comfortable with him and ONLY him and that he owns my vagina, he's going to teach me all these other sexual things and he's never gonna be done with me. He recently told me that he messes with other girls and that I shouldn't be mad cause I know how he is. We ended up getting into an argument and he told me he doesn't mess with them like that and if I think that him having sex without a condom and giving oral to any of those girls cross his mind i have him messed up because it doesn't. I don't know how he went from expressing himself to not expressing himself at all. I don't know what I am to him and he says he does respect me and when he talks sexual with me he doesnt try to disrespect me at all.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (12 July 2011):
 Ok dump this loser. He's possessive, controlling, a cheater and he thinks he can treat you any way he wants. What guy tells their girlfriend that they no longer have ownership of their womanhood? That's perverted and creepy and we're always entitled to ourselves. And why would you be with someone who doesn't feel bad when he messes with other girls? I'm not trying to make you feel bad but you need to dump him. Find someone who you can talk to about anything and who gives you a chance to talk about what you want to talk about and respects your body and your decision to take your time. Hope I helped.
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